How far is too far?

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How far is too far?
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Thu, 06-19-2008 - 9:17am

OK..all the BDSM talk yesterday got me to thinking..dangerous prospect, I know ~wink~....however I am wondering in terms of sexual activity...how far is too far? What are your limits...how far are you willing to let things go? What are your "hard limits", as we call them, things you absolutly won't do...what do you fantasise about doing but would never actually do in real life? Just some questions...


~smile~

Lothiriel


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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 3:02pm

Interesting question there MWM. I would like to say that I would be ok with giving up the domination, but that wouldn't be an honest answer. In everyday life I am quite dominant, I always have been. I have an identical twin sister, I walked first, talked first...everything. She would never do anything without my having done it first. This has changed alot since we became adults, where I have embraced life and my differences with my family she chooses to conform to avoid conflict. I hate that for her, but she has a very skewed view of me nowadays and my urging to her to get out there and not let others rule her existance fall on deaf ears.


Anyways, back to my answering your question. Being submissive to a man gives me something that I don't get anywhere else in my life. It allows me to let go of anything and everything and surrender in a way few people have experienced. That is very liberating, and the act of showing complete and utter vulnerability to another human being is a powerful, powerful thing. I'm not sure I even know how to articulate those feelings with words. What I do know, is that if I lost that in my life, I would miss it greatly. How it makes me feel is too wonderful and rewarding to allow it to be let go. It gives me confidence, it makes me feel beautiful, and it proves to me that I can take on anything that might be thrown in my path. Beyond that, its the best sex I've had in my life, and anyone willing to give that up, is crazy lol ~wink~


Oh, and regarding that dive off the Golden Gate bridge...anytime ~smile~

Lothiriel


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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 3:26pm

Thank you for your honest answer.....and not giving me grief for asking.


I can readily see where a person who is used to being in complete control in their work life could gravitate to a submissive life once the doors are shut and the drapes are drawn. If it works for you and yours, that's all that matters IMO. Good for you.


You say it makes you feel beautiful.....hell, that in itself makes it all the more wonderful then.


Just think lothiriel, when the rest of us are 70 years old and bored with our sex lives, you'll still be in a collar being led around the house by a chain, barking, being lashed at with a whip,

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 3:43pm

Totally LMAO about the haggis.

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 4:03pm

Once we reach an age where we are not capable of enjoying new things, or our health limits us to even try, then it's too late.....and we may be left with a nagging thought of wonderment of "what ifs.......". My "what ifs" are few......and I'm hoping to still enjoy most, if not all, of my not-yet-tried fantasies while I'm fit enough to enjoy them. Whoo

I keep telling my wife that.She thinks that people are age do not have car sex in a park late at night or in a secluded spot. (n just one of many for me) She says thats why adults have homes with bedrooms etc.
I do not want to be the person in the nursing home when I am 90 saying I wish I had done this or wish I had tried this.
As Lothiriel said the tried the Haggis and did not like.What if she loved it.Just think what she would of missed if she never tried it. Think of what all of us are missing becuse we refuse to try something new or expereince something we never have.

As I said in some earlier posts in this thread I am willing to try new things.

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 4:20pm

I think its important to be open and honest about things in your life. I feel like, if my viewpoints and willingness to be open can inspire someone else to do the same, then why not share? If you are proud of who you are and what you stand for, why be ashamed to share that with the world?

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 4:22pm

LOL..yeah the haggis was an experience, let me tell you...I've eaten alot of food in my life other people would pass out at the though of lol...and I've learned some things...I like my curry lava hot...stay away from sea urchin when it comes to sushi...and reindeer is quite tasty...amoung many other things hehehe


And thanks for the kudos on my little statement, it's always refreshing when someone else "gets it"

Lothiriel


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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 4:25pm
Well boys..I'm gone for the day...I'll see everyone monday ~smile~

Lothiriel


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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 7:25pm

"she chooses to conform to avoid conflict. I hate that for her, but she has a very skewed view of me nowadays and my urging to her to get out there and not let others rule her existance fall on deaf ears."


Havent you always seen people and their tastes being ruled by other people or the latest trend?

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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 7:47pm
I would add to what Lothiriel said, from my dominant perspective, that there is nothing quite as intimate as exchanging power with a partner whom you trust completely, with your very life even. Vanilla sex just can't compete with that level of trust and intimacy. When I dominate my partner, taking her right up to the very edge of her limits with pleasure and with pain, it's as if I'm literally inside her mind, pushing her buttons directly.


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