Hyper Sexuality or just a cop out?

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Hyper Sexuality or just a cop out?
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Fri, 10-17-2008 - 6:47pm

so I was watching this show on the Science Channel (I know, I'm a nerd) which explored different ways the "breaking system" in the brain can affect impulses and desires; if tampered with or injured in any way, the breaking system for certain things can become defunct, leaving you desiring something constantly, to the detriment of your way of doing things before the injury.

there was this one lady on the show who suffered a brain hemorrhage and when she regained her health, was diagnosed with hyper sexuality. a married woman who was once stoutly devoted to her husband, the lady featured developed such a high libido, she would literally have sex with any guy she meets, and had affairs almost every time she went out of the house. her husband, a paranoid wreck it seems, would follow her each time she stayed out of the house for longer than expected to ensure that she was not cheating. the lady said that she couldn't help herself, and that she desired sex all day long. she said she completely enjoys the encounters she has, but afterward feels guilt.

my questions- does anyone else think that this might just be a crock of...well you know, or do you think she's honest? what would you do if your DW or SO had this problem?

my answers- i think that she may have a valid argument as to why she has affairs so frequently, but the fact that she feels guilt throws me...if its involuntary, why does she feel guilt? if my SO was like that, well, i think i would try to help him seek help, but i'm kinda selfish, and wouldn't be able to handle that for long.

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aalisig
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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 8:40am

mmhmm i was thinking the same thing...he looked so sad too, running out with his dog to chase the woman down to see if she was somewhere rolling around in the sack...ridiculous if you ask me.

there were also men on the show who suffered brain damage and were like spontaneous artists- every second of their day is consumed with painting, and they've painted their walls and everything. they lost their wives and children to their "disease"; i think maybe their situation has a bit more merit than that of the adulterer- what do you think?

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aalisig
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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 1:20pm

I fell off my bike in

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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 1:35pm
LMAO hilarious!
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aalisig
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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 2:05pm

Ha, ha, ha!

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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 2:37pm
no excuse for me...tee hee. i'm in south central PA- right above the MD line. you?
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aalisig
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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 2:49pm

Ah, cool....


I'm in the Reading area.


By reading some of your other posts, you seem like a horny little thing...I like that!

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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 2:58pm

It's a crock!

 



  


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Mon, 10-20-2008 - 3:19pm

Figured I'd weigh in on this one...I'll try not to have to get the soapbox out LOL


I think its a total cop out. There is something to be said for brain and emotional abnomalities following an accident, but once it's recognized there is no reason the person who suffered the injury can't take steps to control it. Psychology and brain study has come a very long way, and I think thats both good and bad. We abuse it to no end, but it also helps us too.


I kind of look at this like a kid with ADHD. If I'm sitting in a resturant and someone is letting their kid run around and scream like a crazy person, sometimes their defense is "oh well, little Johnny has ADHD". Well whoop de do, so do 15 million other kids. It's not his fault he's overactive, but steps can be taken to ensure he doesn't alienate the rest of the population. The same can be said of someone with Hyper-sexuality. They'll say "oh I did it because I have this disorder". Well, ok, but who suffers the consequences, your spouse? If thats the case does this person not have enough respect for their SO to take steps to control their disorder? If they choose not to, they want to have the excuse to act badly in my opinion.


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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 12:16am
horny little thing is right. *wink* its how i ended up becoming a mom. LOL!
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aalisig
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Tue, 10-21-2008 - 12:17am
i know! she's going to start a new lifestyle- it'll be called "hyper-sexuality sufferers". *contemplates joining*
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