If your mate cheated?

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Registered: 06-28-2007
If your mate cheated?
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Sun, 06-15-2008 - 3:41pm

Hey Everyone:


I have a question for all of you.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 7:14am
Nicely



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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:25am

Years ago hubby had an affair on me. we decided to try to work things out. It was the hardiest thing I have ever tried to do. Then when we seperated for a year I had a baby by another man. Our current situation, neither one of us is happy but are having a hard time ending it. So you just never know what you would do until you are in the situation and yes so many different things come into play. I always said if he ever cheated I would leave, easier said than done. People stay together for so many reasons, it is never as easy as black and white.


NH, I hope you dont mind me asking but are you and hubby trying to be in a relationship or are you just room mates?


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Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:34am

NH, I hope you dont mind me asking but are you and hubby trying to be in a relationship or are you just room mates?


I feel like we are room mates. I have tried in the past and will not try anymore. It's not worth it. You can only take so much rejection. We do love each other, and have plenty of other things in common,



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Registered: 08-03-2003
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:45am
I understand completely what you are saying!
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Registered: 06-27-2007
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 8:50am

If your mate cheated

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Registered: 02-17-2008
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 10:02pm

BL, it's not up to me to judge anyone else.

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Registered: 06-28-2007
Mon, 06-16-2008 - 10:20pm
Actually yes, I recently found out that my S/O cheated on me.

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 1:17am

Married twice, both cheated, both divorced.

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 6:56am
In your shoes I would almost certainly leave. It would be difficult to feel that I could trust the love of someone who felt the need to take solace in the arms of another when the going became a little tough, because they were 'upset about the situation'. I've also found that, when someone shows me who they truly are, that I'm usually better off when I believe them the first time rather than allowing them the opportunity to demonstrate it to me over and over again.


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Registered: 08-01-2006
Tue, 06-17-2008 - 8:00am

May I ask how you found out? Did he admit to it? Had you two tried talking about your problems before he cheated? Only you can decide if you want to leave or stay. He will have to work hard in order for you try to to forgive him and trust him again. May I also ask what kinds of problems you were having to begin with?


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