I'll take potpourri for $1000 Alex....

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I'll take potpourri for $1000 Alex....
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Tue, 09-09-2008 - 9:53am

Good Morning Everyone!?!?!


How's everyone???

The Sassy One

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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 10:43am

hmmm, now that is interesting...that brings up a good fantasy board question then...if you had a fantasy about said 'death metal guitarist', how likely in real life could you act upon those thoughts and fantasies? Are thoughts like that always to remain in the realm of fantasy or could you honestly see youreslf acting upon some of the fantasy thoughts you have?






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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 11:39am
Ok..truth time...I've known this guy for several years now, his drummer is a good friend of mine from high school, and I must admit to having fantasies about him already. He's into the same type of play as me, he's very dominant etc. To act on them, well given DH's permission I would be all for it, but I would never do it without that. WHile I don't know this for a fact, I think my friend would would act upon it as well. (if his reactions to tossing me around in training are any indication)

Lothiriel


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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 12:57pm

Oh I do love truth time lol



To act on them, well given DH's permission I would be all for it, but I would never do it without that


I was assuming it would be an agreed upon encounter between you and your DH. It's interesting that you would seriously contemplate making a fantasy like that reality?


So would the fantasy be a one on one? or is this something that would include the hubby and guitarist? I am thinking you might as well just write a story because i will probably have a hundred questions for ya hahaha.



if his reactions to tossing me around in training are any indication


So was his reaction a smile, or are we talking about an involuntary physical reaction? ;-)






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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 1:13pm

Hehe...perhaps I'll craft a story ~smile~ But my ultimate fantasy involving this would be one on one, with DH watching us...but I wouldn't scoff at the other options either ~wicked grin~


I'm (obviously) quite sexually liberated and I don't agree with denying myself things that I want so long as they don't harm myself or anyone else. What about my willingness to make it a reality (given the right conditions) do you find so interesting? With this guy, he knows I love and adore my husband, and it wouldn't be anything for him other than sex.


As for his reactions during training, he smiles alot and gets this really satisfied look on his face when he's on top of me. Besides that the comments we make to each other aren't exactly kosher lol. Last night he said "When everyone asks you at work tomorrow what you did tonight, you can tell 'em you got manhandled by a bunch of diffrent men" we burst out laughing and I responded "yeah 6 of them!" and he said "you can tell them we all took turns" lol..then he winked at me. There was one incident with that 'involuntary reaction' you spoke of too lol

Lothiriel


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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 1:37pm

perhaps I'll craft a story


I will look forward to it.



I'm (obviously) quite sexually liberated and I don't agree with denying myself things that I want so long as they don't harm myself or anyone else


I would have to agree with statement. If all parties involved are fully into it and are getting pleasure out of it then by all means go for it.



What about my willingness to make it a reality (given the right conditions) do you find so interesting?


Well it's interesting because you do have a very unique perspective on a lot of things, but also alot of people here on these boards like the idea of the 'sharing'/3some/moresome fantasies; yet best to be left as fantasy.


Many envision it, but have blatantly said they wouldn't actually go through with it under any circumstances. i think part of me thought you would have been in that category.



...he said "you can tell them we all took turns" lol


hahaha, definitely sounds like the two of you were having a fun time with your training last night lol.



There was one incident with that 'involuntary reaction' you spoke of too lol


hahaha, yep,





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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 1:48pm

There are alot of things I've explored in the sexual realm, and plenty more I want to induldge in in the future. Threesomes and sharing etc...have always been something that interested me, though I have not actually done it before. I have an ability to also seperate sex from a romantic involvement. I don't think that two people have to be in love to enjoy each other physically, so long as a physical attraction exists. I get what I need emotionally from DH, I don't need another man for that. But a physical experience with someone else, would be purely for the pleasure of it. Emotions would be involved to some degree, especially if any domination was involved, but its not the "I love and want to be with you' kind of emotion its the 'holy crap that hurts and you're scaring the hell out of me, but I love it" kind of emotions that would be involved. I guess I'm unique in that way of thinking.


What made you think I would be one of the ones who wouldnt actually do it real life? Just curious ~smile~


Yeah, he and I have alot of fun together, we have a similar (albeit filthy) sense of humor lol...he loves to make comments about how training is the only time he gets to 'legally' hit a woman and cause her pain without the fear of an assault charge lol

Lothiriel


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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 2:13pm

Good Afternoon L and CBH~


Hope you don't mind me jumping in here...but I've been following your discussion on this...


omg....as I've been reading I keep saying to myself..."this is sooo cool and sounds like so much fun"


I want to try this....I would love to be involved in one of those trainning sessions...


Better yet...can I just be you for a day L????


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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 2:15pm

LOL be me for a day?? Sure! hehehe


Training is great, I love it and besides the fund side effects we've talked about, its awesome to know you could kick someones ass if need be lol

Lothiriel


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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 2:34pm

I have an ability to also seperate sex from a romantic involvement. I don't think that two people have to be in love to enjoy each other physically, so long as a physical attraction exists. I get what I need emotionally from DH, I don't need another man for that. But a physical experience with someone else, would be purely for the pleasure of it


I might have to copy that and save it, because it was exactly the wording I have always tried to place on the idea of sharing/3somes. When you are looking for the pleasurable experiences of life that doesn't diminish the importance of the emotional bond you have with your spouse. If you are getting everything you need in that realm then opening up to the possibilities of including others could be an option then.



I guess I'm unique in that way of thinking.


Being unique in the way you think is definitely a good thing I believe.



What made you think I would be one of the ones who wouldnt actually do it real life? Just curious


hmmm, it was a feeling I got. I think my mindset was changed with the explanation you gave in the last reply. You always talked so highly of your husband, your marriage, and how close you two are. I think it gave me the impression that you were solely into him and him alone. You obviously have a very well defined libido. with many different perspectives on many topics sexually. But I still thought you were completely and solely into your husband no matter what. I have always known you to be very liberal in your outlook on life, but I don't know, for some reason it was in the back of my mind that you wouldn't go for it. But I stand corrected. :)))



we have a similar (albeit filthy) sense of humor


responding from the guy's perspective. Its alot of fun to find a woman who has an 'off colour' sense of humour. Very much puts us at ease.






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Wed, 09-10-2008 - 2:38pm

Thanks! ~wink~


Yes!

 



  


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