I'm sure we're not the only ones!

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Registered: 03-09-2012
I'm sure we're not the only ones!
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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 7:23am
There's got to be other couples out there that have thought about having a mad session! We are not swingers but both enjoy sex and good sex. Not gay just want to experience being with others at the same time as each other. I've suppressed these feelings for a long time and my boyfriend would actually like to indulge with me. So has anyone? How did they find it affected their relationship? Was it with friends or strangers? Lots of questions ;) thanks
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 11:13am

Hi and welcome. i've not done anything like that as I'm not relly good with sharing.

Is it a 3some, 4some you both want to experience? Do you want to have sex with another guy and have your BF watching?

As for it working, well, I would say you have to talk, talk, talk, and talk some more about it. Make sure you are both very safe in your relaitonship, meaning not prone to jealousy. Some couples are ok with doing this and then there are some that end up with hard feelings and not able to stay together. Also you may want to have some rules in place. Such as, no deep french kissing, no intercourse without a condom, etc.



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Sun, 03-11-2012 - 4:23am
Hi thanks for the reply, I've always thought about a 3 some and during a long discussion he asked would I consider a 4some. I always said that if I had a 3some then my fella couldn't touch just watch. My first concern is my relationship and will it affect it. We go away on holiday soon so I'm sure that will give us an opportunity to discuss how we feel. Thanks. :)
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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 7:59am

I want to wish you luck in your talk. Please let us know what happens!



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Registered: 03-17-2009
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 7:00pm

Paulsbird,

If you feel your current relationship is stable, then it might be for you.

 


 


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Registered: 04-04-2012
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 8:14am
I'm open for just about anything sexual except for sharing my partner or my self with anyone else. I know it would absolutely ruin my relationship. I would never get the image of him with someone else out of my mind.

On the other hand, if I were in a relationship where I wasn't in love with my partner, then maybe I would be interested in a 3 or 4 some for a purely sexual experience. I'd have to think about that.