Is it wrong to have sexual fantasy with your wife friend?

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Registered: 02-25-2012
Is it wrong to have sexual fantasy with your wife friend?
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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 12:26am

Does anyone have this problem?

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Registered: 10-10-2010

Random thoughts pop up in our heads all the time.

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Registered: 08-01-2006

Hi and welcome

I'm assuming that you mean that you fantasize about a friends wife, and not that you and she fantasize together. If that's the case, I personally see nothing wrong with it. Unless... Does it interfer with your life? Are you married or have a SO? If so, does it interfere with your relationship? It would only be a BIG problem if you were to mentionit to him or her and try to act on it. If it's bothering you, then try thinking of something/someone else.



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Registered: 03-17-2009

Hello

Alex and Nhgal have very good responses.

 


 


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Registered: 04-26-2011
I dont' see it as a problem. Now, acting out on it could be more complicated, depending on how things are with your spouse and your friend.

I've fantasized being with my wife's best friend, and my wife knows about it. We've talked about swinging with them because my wife's friend's husband has hinted around, but t would be a real uncomfortable situation with them being best friends, and such. It will probably never happen, so its an idle thought in my brain.

I probably even occasionally flirt with that friend, and she thinks I'm hilarious, but I'd never do anything, or even bring it up, because I know the missus isn't interested.

Its my opinion that you want your spouse to be not only approving, but enthusiastic about something liek that, otherwise its going to be an issue.
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Registered: 04-21-2008

I agree with the others -- fantasies are normal.

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Registered: 04-26-2005
The only problem with is is if it is a secret. A fantasy by a partner is ok -- even one close to home. But, fantasies are to be enjoyed. It may be that this could lead to some very sexy times between the two ...
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Registered: 08-01-2006

I'm sorry but I disagree with you, and that's ok. My fantasies are mine and mine alone. But that's just me.



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Registered: 03-17-2012
Personally, I think it's a slippery slope..
Be careful.
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Registered: 09-01-2010

And I agree with you, nhgal.

Half of hockey is mental, the other half is being mental.
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Registered: 04-26-2005

I exercise my perogative to change my mind -- with the thought though that fantaises that are just a touch a way have some special dangers .

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