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Wed, 07-20-2011 - 12:43pm

Moon and I saw an episode of the Dr Phil show that focused on the

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Registered: 01-26-2009
In reply to: mrspe
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 1:11pm

What do you think? ~ I like the idea of swinging

Have you been to a swingers club? ~ Nope

Would you consider joining one? ~ Yes

Care to share some thoughts? ~ I had a "sex buddy" about a year and a half ago and we talked about going to one someday but we never got the chance to before things ended



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Wed, 07-20-2011 - 1:14pm

Moon and I saw an episode of the Dr Phil show that focused on the



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Registered: 09-20-2007
In reply to: mrspe
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 1:49pm

This is going to sound bad, I know, but for me swinging sounds so old fashioned. I grew up in the early 70s when wife swapping and swinging and sexual communes were "the thing." So the image of bell bottoms and platform shoes and groups of naked people in hot tubs got ingrained in my mind of that decade. So now whenever I hear that someone is a swinger all I can think of is, "Oh, that's so 70s."

I apologize to anyone on this board who is a swinger!

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In reply to: mrspe
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 2:21pm

What do you think?

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Registered: 01-03-2007
In reply to: mrspe
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 3:40pm

Have you been to a swingers club? I have not.

Would you consider joining one? I would consider joining one likely as a one-time thing to go to one once.

Care to share some thoughts? I like the aspect of going once as an experience, mostly watching, maybe engaging in something with my partner on our own in front of people. I see that as a possible real-life experience.



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Registered: 04-26-2011
In reply to: mrspe
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 5:55pm
I've never been to one, and I'd have to defer to my spouse who would never go to one.

I know that, other relationships i've been in, there would have been interest, either with other women, or other couples. I would consider it, and with the right couples, I could do so.

My feeling on this has always been that if you love someone, and they love you, that jealousy is normal, but if I have to enforce that love with exclusivity, that I am personally not doing something right. I think its normal for married folk to still be attracted to other people. I know if my wife wanted to be with another man, if she was honest with me about it, I'd be ok with it. If I have to enforce some kind of "ownership" to keep her with me, or use religiion to force her to be a certain way, I wouldn't feel very good about that.

That being said, I think If I said I wasnt' comfortable with that, she would respect it. I also respect her not being comfortable with that, or a lot of other things, by not pressuring her to do them.

My concerns, generally, would be protecting my wife and myself from unsavory situations or folks we wouldn't want to be with. ITs why my swinging fantasies always involve people/couples I know..
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Registered: 01-22-2008
In reply to: mrspe
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 7:35pm

What do you think?

Born to Live.

 

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Registered: 12-04-2008
In reply to: mrspe
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 9:36am

What do you think?

Siggy

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In reply to: mrspe
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 11:58am

I'd have to agree with you quixoticmale, exclusivity shouldn't be enforced, it should be earnt.

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Registered: 12-16-2008
In reply to: mrspe
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 12:19pm

Have you been to a swingers club? No

Would you consider joining one? Yes

Care to share some thoughts? I've always wanted to attend a swinger's party at least once to see what it's like. I don't know what would happen once I got there. The idea of watching others have sex and being wathced by others sounds fun in theory, but I'm not sure my SO and I could actually go through with swinging with others.



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