Need Advise

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Registered: 12-29-2012
Need Advise
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Sat, 12-29-2012 - 2:52pm

Hi I am 24 yrs old have been with my bf for 9 years And We have a 5 yr old son. in the past 9 yrs i have caught my bf texting other girls, I was really hurt then, and it still bothers me Now. Because of that I am now an extremely jealous Person. About two weeks ago I caught him texting  other girls again, it was all dirty talk. i am still with him but i been thinking maybe this should be the end. The problem is lately I been really turned on and i have fantasies about having a 3some with him and another girl. I told him about it and now he wants to make it happen.  I am not sure if i should go with it. This is not like me at all. 

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:17am

Why doesn't he text you when he wants to talk dirty? Does he know these other women he's texting? I would get that worked out before trying to do a 3some. It may just be something you fantasize about but don't really want to act out. Especailly is you're jealous that won't be a good thing. If you do decide to do it, make sure you talk about it, talk about it and talk about it some more. Make rules as to what can and cannot be done.



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Registered: 11-18-2011
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:21am

Sometimes you have to keep the lid of Pandora's box locked....

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Registered: 02-23-2013
Sat, 02-23-2013 - 3:35pm

It's been a while, so probably the issue has already passed, but I would absolutely not do this. If he is already talking with other girls instead of texting YOU when he is in a sexy mood, then he may end up taking your request for a threesome as you telling him his behavior is okay.

Not to mention that if you're already of a jealous nature to begin with, sharing him with another woman is only likely to make that MUCH worse. You'd just end up being suspicious that he enjoyed the other woman more than he enjoyed you. He may even consider a threesome as a justification for him to go even further with the other girls he's been talking to. Like having your permission to cheat.

If the idea of ménage à trois intrigues you, I would suggest waiting until you're with someone who you feel you can trust and that you also feel completely comfortable with the third person.

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Fri, 03-15-2013 - 8:29pm
I have tried sexting the wife, she just ignores me...

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