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| Tue, 12-11-2007 - 4:18pm |
OK. Here is the deal. My dh wants me to go to a clothing optional resort and go nude! At first I thought he was joking but I have come to realize that he is serious. I am mortified with the thought of this.
A little background. I was raised Catholic. I am overloaded with the whole guilt and modesty issues. The only man I have been with is my dh. He and my OB-GYN are the only two men to see me naked and I was uncomfortable in front of the doctor. My DH, Dale, has always tried to get me to loosen up, to no avail. The most daring thing I have ever done was to go braless. The sweater was big enough that no one could tell and I was still embarrassed.
I told Dale my feelings and he told me that our ‘intimate’ life has been very routine and from his point of view very boring. He told me I needed to open up. Although he didn’t say so, I know our sex life had become a very big issue with him. I can’t bear to think where this could go. It is not that I don’t love him; my background has kept me from enjoying sex and the like.
So, after some prayer, I decided to try to loosen up. I told him that I would go to the resort but I was not sure how courageous I could be. I do not know where we are going except it will be right after the first of the year.
I want to please my husband. I think a secluded topless beach might be ok. I have great doubts about being nude. I would like input from the gals, and guys for that matter, on steps I can take beforehand to loosen up and give Dale what he wants.
Any and all suggestions are welcome.
A shy Anita.

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Hi and welcome anita. Nice to meet you. Will you please fill in your profile so we can know something about you? Thanks. Stick around, jump in anytime, and have fun. The people here are awesome!
Now, for your question. I can't help much except to say.. If I didn't want to get naked in public, no one could make me. If it's a clothing optional place, go, have fun, and see what happens. But only do what you want as far as clothing. If you're not comfortable, don't do something. Try to loosen up first at home by yourself, then slowly loosen up with hubby.
Anita:
I read your post and I know exactly how you feel. My dh wanted the same thing and much more – a threesome! First things first.
I was in the same boat. A boring sex life and a marriage headed for disaster. I knew I needed to loosen up but I was on a guilt overload. I asked what he wanted and got his desires. Wearing a see thru blouse without a bra in public. Going to a nude beach. Having sex with a woman and finally having a threesome with dh and another woman. What a list.
After much contemplation I decided I needed to at least give it a try, albeit with great trepidation.
If you are interested, I can tell you what I did.
Parker
Anita,
From one Catholic school girl to another...I say go for it! What have you got to lose? You probably won't know ANYONE there and your DH will be happy...and in the end...probably so will you!
p.s. I was a 12 yr Catholic school girl...and went to an ALL girls HS, to boot...all in all ...it has never stopped me frim having fun!!! But it took me until I was about 40 to realize what fun I could have!!! LOL
Parker and Jordan:
Thanks for your responses. I asure you I can use your intput. I would like to take some small steps to start with. If I can do one small thing then I would have the courage to try the next. I tend to view major projects as a seriies of small incremental activities. After a bunch of small steps you are finished.
Parker, my dh has not broached the subject of FF and/or FMF sex. That is way beyond anything I have ever considered.
Any suggestions will be appreciated.
Anita:
As I said, I was in the same boat as you. Luckily I found this website and I received much encouragement. I also came to realize sex could be great fun and there were so many things we could try without any recriminations or embarrassment.
Here is my first step. It took all of my courage to do it. After I did it, I felt much better about things and I realized anything was possible. I will explain the other steps later.
My first step was to wear a see thru blouse in public. I chose to go to a nice restaurant that had a quiet lounge. I had a friend drop me off and my DH met me there. In preparation, I wanted to be as relaxed and sexy as possible. The first step was a warm bath. As I relaxed with some wine, I thought this actually might be nice. My dh had always wanted me to shave myself. I never had, but I decided to give it a try. In for a penny so to speak. As I was shaving, I was getting a little turned on. I then knew in my heart this was the right thing to do!
I put on a sheer blouse without a bra. I wore jacket and a short skirt a thong and thigh high hose. I looked and felt good. My friend picked me up and saw my outfit and loved it. I told her what I was going to do and she thought I was brave and congratulated my courage. I had not told my dh what I was doing. He met me at the restaurant. We sat down for a drink and I opened my jacket showing him a peek at the very visible goodies. He was shocked that I finally tried it. I loved the reaction I got from him. I knew I had done the right thing. As we had our drinks, I told him I would try new things, but not to pressure me. I would move at my own pace, but I would be moving. We went to the table with some wine. By now, my shyness was gone. I took the jacket off, letting the girls see the light of day. Luckily the restaurant was dark and most people had no idea what was going on. When I took the jacket off, the world did not end. I felt kind of naughty in a nice way.
As you can imagine, we got very good service by a very attentive waiter. I really enjoyed it. It was like I was a kid getting away with something. During coffee, I went to the ladies room and when I came back I handed him my thong. He was surprised. I also told him I had shaved for him. Now he was shocked. When we left I threw my shoulders back and carried my jacket. Everyone got a good peek at the girls. I was not embarrassed by the attention.
About sex. I have to say that I did not stray from the missionary position. I had tried oral on him once but he surprised me by cumming in my mouth. I gagged and that was it for oral. Well, with my newfound knowledge about oral I decided to give it a try again. I had him pull over to a dark corner of the parking lot and gave him a bj complete with swallowing. Knowing what was coming made it easier and actually enjoyable.
More later
Parker
If you begin straight at the nude beach, it
Parker...
Anita...
Maybe not what you were looking for, but here is a guy's perspective.
Anita, first I want to applaud you for wanting to take some steps to fulfill some of your husbands desires, I think that shows a dedication on your part to your relationship.
As far as the beach goes, like the others say, go at your own pace and don't do something way out of your comfort zone. Just something a little bit outside, you never know it might be more exciting than you thought.
Have Fun,
"Ability is of little account without opportunity"
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