poll-am I oversensitive about the word .

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poll-am I oversensitive about the word .
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 12:16pm

I have recently considered exploring an avenue of my sexuality outside my relationship-there are some things that I really want to experience that my husband is not open to.

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 12:32pm

I was just talking to someone yesterday about this. She referred to herself as somewhat of a "slut" when she was younger. and I told her I don't see that as a derogatory term. It's a double standard term. Meaning women aren't allowed to enjoy sex and be happy with their wants and needs. I think a woman who knows who she is and what she wants is sexy. and if she thinks she is a slut then that is sexy. She just knows how to enjoy life.






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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 12:42pm

I have heard several women use the term "slut" and meant it in a very sexy way. I would take it from them that it was meaning that they were very dirty in between the sheets. They didn't feel the word was demeaning at all.
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 12:50pm

Hi and welcome ck. Nice to meet you. Will you do me a favor? Please fill in your profile so we can know something about you. Thanks! Stick around and jump in anytime. There are some wonderful people here and we have fun!


Now, for your question. Me, personally, I don't like that word. I have used it jokingly about myself, but I really hate when someone else says it about me.


On another note, may I ask why you need to go outside your marriage? Have you tried talking to your husband about your wants and needs? Would you ever leave your marriage? Is this other man married? I'm just curious.

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Registered: 04-20-2008
Fri, 04-25-2008 - 1:31pm
My 2 cents worth. You are playing a very dangerous game

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 1:44pm

As a woman who embraces her sluttiness...I can't necessarily say that you're being "over sensitive" about the use of the word.

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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 1:50pm
I personally don't use that word, even if the person behaves in that manner.
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 2:53pm
Master calls me His slut all the time, in and out of the bedroom. Why? Because I am His slut. My ex called me slut, but that was because he was accusing me of sleeping around. He did that because his mother slept around on his father and my ex grew up beging told by his father that that's what all women would eventually do, because they couldn't be trusted. I had a completely vanilla relaitonship with my ex, so him calling me a slut was degrading and untrue. Master calling me His slut is something completely different and it's hard to explain what the difference is unless you're in a BDSM relationship (then you would know what the difference is). It's gotten to the point where outside of sex it's gotten cute when He calls me slut. He'll walk past me in the house, swat me on the butt and say, "Slut." And then I'll turn to Him and ask, "Yes, Master?" Of course, during sex He uses a different tone of voice and the word is used in a different context, so then it gets me hot. He also calls me His whore and He calls me by the "C" word, which I absolutely love. So I have no problem beging called Master's slut. I take all those words: slut, whore, the "C" word and use them as the empowerment words that they were originally. For example, the "C" word is an ancient word, used to express the power that women initially had. All the words that we believe are degrading were not in ancient times and it was through the patriarchial religions and socieities that they became degrading towards women. So I embrace them.
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 3:14pm

Sister -


I love it when you share this history...you and I have discussed it before, but I think more women should know the origin of the "c" word.











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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 4:49pm
I'm weighing in on this . One who cares or expressing interest in you never uses a demeaning term such as that . It is disrespectful to all women . It is different when the ladies use it .Next are willing to take the chance to bring a gift that keeps on giving home to your SO ?? STD's are not to be joked about . One ex has herpes , !! Oh . That's why she is an ex !! Is it worth the risk ?? Talking with your mate and gently exploring both of your non vanilla ideas . Is it possible ??
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Fri, 04-25-2008 - 4:56pm

I agree the word epitomizes the double standard in todays society. Men who sleep around are studs. Women who do are sluts. But we all have our buttons and this is one of yours. And you are entertaining an intimate encounter with someone you don't even know,

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