Q for the gals - BAD BOYS

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Registered: 01-02-2006
Q for the gals - BAD BOYS
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Fri, 05-09-2008 - 7:38am
So I've got a platonic female friend that I pal around with. We dated a couple of times and have been "friends" since then. We sit and chat about things and even though she's a 31 year old mother of a 4 y.o., she STILL wants to find herself a "bad boy" - that's her type even though (from the sounds of things) they keep breaking her heart and treating her badly. What is it with the bad boys for you gals AND at what point in your life do you start passing them up for someone nice?
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Registered: 09-20-2007
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 4:28pm

A bit of debt? I wish that my ex had gotten me into just a bit of debt! He couldn't/wouldn't work. The only jobs I could get at the time were part-time and for minimum wage, back when minimum wage was $4.35 an hour. We had our phone, electricity and water cut off many times. I bounced checks for bills all over the place because he would go to various ATMs and take money out for his drugs. He stole money out of my purse. He pawned my books, movies, CDs and jewelry (including my diamond ring that had belonged to my grandmother who got it from her first husband who was killed in WWI). I would have to walk down to the Salvation Army every day for my one meal of the day. He went through our savings account. He started out on pot, then moved to shooting up meth. I think by the time he was done he was smoking crack. And the sad thing is he was still an addict at the age of 40 when we finally split (of course, that's not saying much, since my brother is going on 53 and is an addict).


One of the other posters claims that sex with a bad boy is fantastic and dangerous. I disagree. I rarely had sex with my bad boy because #1 he was never home, because he was too busy getting wasted with his buddies, running from the law or in jail and #2 because I was so angry with him that I refused to have sex with him.

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Registered: 02-21-2005
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 5:09pm

From conversatons I've had with women friends who were in relationships with "bad boys" it seems as though a part of the appeal had to do with the challenge of getting past the bad boy exterior and get him to open up.

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Registered: 02-17-2008
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 5:21pm

Okay, I'm going to answer a little differently than everyone else...

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Registered: 06-02-2006
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 5:47pm

"A man can be monogamous but have a little bad in him that makes him fun to be with.

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 6:14pm

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Registered: 09-27-2005
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 6:27pm

Some of my observatrions in life:



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Registered: 02-21-2005
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 6:34pm

I wasn't saying that the guys were being faithful to these women or that they really were opening up to them. That was the fantasy, but the reality (which they often refused to accept)

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Registered: 02-17-2008
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 6:37pm

It's not that the BB doesn't hold appeal for a slip in the sheets.

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Registered: 02-17-2008
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 7:42pm

Your point with the stripper is exactly on -- you were in the public and treated her with respect...

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Registered: 09-20-2007
Fri, 05-09-2008 - 7:51pm
I used to feel that my ex was a poor, misunderstood soul. Nothing like attempted murder on me on his part to change my mind! I thank the Goddess that I was able to survive that horrendous ordeal, because now I'm with the best man in the world who treats me like a queen.

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