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| Thu, 03-06-2008 - 4:17pm |
I am going to ask this since this board is so open and honest. This is mainly for the men but ladies you can reply also.
I will just be blunt and not sugar coat it. For at least 5 years maybe more hubby has had a hard time keeping an errection. He just turned 40 and has a clean bill of health. Years ago I ask him to try viagra, he told me no. So as many of you know I get my needs met by someone else. Also he spends many hours looking at porn. My question is he has stated he wanted to our relationship to be good. Why would he not consider viagra or something like it? Could it be that he is just to use to the porn and pleasuring himself to keep it up for sex with me? I have just given up on having sex with him. At this point I guess I am trying to figure out if it is worth trying to stay with him in a sexless marriage. Of course there are other things that are not working in our marriage I am trying to sort things out to decided if divorce is just the way it will have to end. After being together for 19 years it is hard to end it for good. At this point it is like we are two friends living together and yes he has some good points. So do I settle for a friend as a husband and step out on him when I need my needs met? I dont' know why I ask that last question cause I know no one can answer that.


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"and since hubbys apperance has changed quite a bit "
Just curious how his appearance has changed.
"I think a normal woman would have just up and left by now."
Oh please do not think you are anything but normal.
Jim, yes he does relieve himself while watching porn. I don't believe he does it any more than he always has.
"I think a normal woman would have just up and left by now."
ST....I am glad you picked up on that...I was reading the thread and that one line shot me like an arrow.
My Love, My Loyalty and My Friendship is Everlasting...
Mrs P
"I think a normal woman would have just up and left by now."
Lori....
You are a normal woman in every sense of the word. You are a living, breathing, loving, sexual woman. That makes you normal.
Your reasons to stay are no ones to judge. I think you will find that most people do a great many things they swear to others they would never do, many things so unlike them, many things others don't understand.
I wish you well Lori. You are travelling a difficult road, one known to lots of people around here. You are in exactly the right place to ask questions, share thoughts and vent.
My Love, My Loyalty and My Friendship is Everlasting...
Mrs P
You're more than welcome, sweet thing.
It's very easy to tell right from wrong. Wrong is the FUN one.
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