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| Thu, 03-06-2008 - 4:17pm |
I am going to ask this since this board is so open and honest. This is mainly for the men but ladies you can reply also.
I will just be blunt and not sugar coat it. For at least 5 years maybe more hubby has had a hard time keeping an errection. He just turned 40 and has a clean bill of health. Years ago I ask him to try viagra, he told me no. So as many of you know I get my needs met by someone else. Also he spends many hours looking at porn. My question is he has stated he wanted to our relationship to be good. Why would he not consider viagra or something like it? Could it be that he is just to use to the porn and pleasuring himself to keep it up for sex with me? I have just given up on having sex with him. At this point I guess I am trying to figure out if it is worth trying to stay with him in a sexless marriage. Of course there are other things that are not working in our marriage I am trying to sort things out to decided if divorce is just the way it will have to end. After being together for 19 years it is hard to end it for good. At this point it is like we are two friends living together and yes he has some good points. So do I settle for a friend as a husband and step out on him when I need my needs met? I dont' know why I ask that last question cause I know no one can answer that.


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'I think a normal woman would have just up and left by now.'
You ARE a real woman, don't ever let me hear you putting yourself down like that AGAIN!
ok I wont' do it again!
Many of us on this board stay with our mates because there are some good things in the relationship. Some times we stay with what we have because we are afaid of being alone or getting into something worse then what we already have. Yes I know you are all jumping up right now and saying, Lori you don't have to be in a relationship to be happy. You dont' need to settle for second best. You are a women that has so much to offer. Yes I agree with all of that. I think I spend way too much time second guessing myself.
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