Queston about steping out on mate

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Queston about steping out on mate
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 12:48pm

For those of you have had an affair or would consider an affair this question is for you, Do you think you could have an affair that was just sexual with no emotions envolved?


If you had a person that you had sex with on a regular basis do you think you would develop an emotionl attachment?


Also if you ever did consider doing this would that mean that the love you once had for you mate had either gone away or was almost gone?


I believe for most women they try to have affairs but at some point emotions get involved. If they are married most would tell you they are no longer in love with their husbands.

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Registered: 03-13-2008
Sat, 05-31-2008 - 1:10pm

I think you raised some good questions...had been thinking the same thing not too long ago when a gf and I were talking...hopefully there will be some replies!....


I've heard before that men can seperate it more easily...the emotions...the sex for sex...but I'm sure that depends on the individual....Emotions are a complicated thing at times...


Sorry I couldn't help answer any!....Hope your day is going well!


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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 3:04pm

Slightly off topic to your questions. As an adult, "post high school" I have never had an affair while married or in a relationship. I have been called an odd ball by friends because I have to know and like the woman I make love to. The emotional is just as important to me as the physical. Some of my friends don't know what they are missing!


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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 6:26pm

hot one .

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 6:31pm

Both my first husband and I ended up having sex outside of marriage.

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 7:28pm

Hot......As you know, I'm in a sexless marriage because my wife is unable (not unwilling).

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 7:34pm
oae3 nice to meet you and thanks for your intrest in my questions.
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 7:37pm

Noexcusess, thank you for your reply and interest in my questions.


it IS possible to actually be in love with two people at the same time .

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 7:42pm
Raging, first I am sorry that you went threw such heart break with your first husband. Did you get remarried to someone else? How did things end up with the affair person? Thank you so much for opening up and explaining things in such a good way.
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 7:46pm
Muff your situation is a little bit different because of your wife's condition. Does your wife know you have sex with someone else? How long has that been going on?
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 7:52pm

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