Queston about steping out on mate

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Queston about steping out on mate
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 12:48pm

For those of you have had an affair or would consider an affair this question is for you, Do you think you could have an affair that was just sexual with no emotions envolved?


If you had a person that you had sex with on a regular basis do you think you would develop an emotionl attachment?


Also if you ever did consider doing this would that mean that the love you once had for you mate had either gone away or was almost gone?


I believe for most women they try to have affairs but at some point emotions get involved. If they are married most would tell you they are no longer in love with their husbands.

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:01pm

I have loved two men at the same time and it is different because they are different...I feel you are capable of loving many people and the more love you give the more you get back...Now I don't mean having sex with all those you love. LOL


I have had a sex buddy before and the emotions were never involoved. I never fell for him he was just a good F... and I am sure he felt the same because that's all he came for. I think we women can compartmentalize our lives as well as men....I also feel that women are told they are supposed to feel something emotional for our sex partners because nice girls only

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:07pm

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:10pm

I have had a sex buddy before and the emotions were never involoved. I never fell for him he was just a good F...


LR if you dont' mind me asking how long did you see this buddy? You felt nothing at all for him? I understand you can be with someone sexually and not love them. I think I can ask you this, have you ever been with someone sexually that you didn't like the sexual hold they had over you? Ok that may be confusing, how about someone that you just had to have sex with because they brought out a side of you that only they could? Someone that could cause you to open up so much sexually you felt scared? That this was the first person that you felt such attraction to and had such great sex you really didn't think it was possible? Sorry so many questions . Just trying to sort things out after seeing someone for over a year........

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:11pm

is that because your wife has no idea about your relationship with the other woman??


I'M SURE IF SHE DID THERE WOULD BE A PROBLEM.


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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:14pm

Muff, so after having sex with her for almost 2 years, you consider her a sex buddy? I guess it makes sense because the both of you are married and are only meeting to have sex. Would you feel any loss if you could no longer see her, other than sexual frustration? Do you consider her a close friend? Is the sex you have with her macanical?


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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:17pm
ok I feel we are good enough friends for me to say this and please dont' be mad. If you really loved you wife, wouldn't you feel guilty about sharing your body with someone else. Maybe your situation is different because your wife can't have sex.
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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:23pm

We saw each other for about a year. He quit seeing me after he got seriious with his GF...LOL


Yes, I have had the most intense sex that it scared me...I find those relationships don;t last...

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:35pm

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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:37pm

Do you love them equally? Or is a different type of love for each person?


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Sat, 05-31-2008 - 8:42pm

you really loved you wife, wouldn't you feel guilty about sharing your body with someone else.

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