Reach Out and Touch......

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2009
Reach Out and Touch......
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Fri, 02-06-2009 - 9:21pm

I asked in the Roll Call if you remember your first sweetheart.


Someone, who shall remain nameless, mentioned...and I quote....


"I do- as a matter of fact, I've recently gotten back in contact with him"


So I ask the question....


Have you ever been contacted by or been in touch with an old sweetheart? Have you ever reached out to an old flame yourself?


and finally.....


Do old flames, past loves, former partners figure into your fantasies?


Do tell!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-30-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 12:33am

Have you ever been contacted by or been in touch with an old sweetheart?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-09-2005
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 1:18am

Have you ever been contacted by or been in touch with an old sweetheart? Have you ever reached out to an old flame yourself? Yes.

and finally.....

Do old flames, past loves, former partners figure into your fantasies? No.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-26-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 5:39am

Yes, yes, and yes.

My xSO was my first real love/lover. We've known each other for 25 years. Now I could very easily say yes to him and I'd be having sex again and trying new things in a heartbeat and feel safe about it.

Problem is I'm not, nor have I ever been #1 in his life, so this past year around the holidays, things happened that finally made me wake up and say ENOUGH. I've called it quits before, said I don't want to hear from you, can't do this, go lead your life and I'll lead mine, had our dramatic meltdown, exits. But we always end up reaching out and finding one another (even after YEARS of not being in touch.)

Well this time, I just cancelled a bunch of e-mail addees I have. I can't quit work or move from where I'm living but I'm sure he'll realize, because of his recent actions at the end of last year, that this time I'm serious and hopefully he'll leave me alone once and for all.

Which is why I'm trying new things and opening up more this year and spreading my sexual wings a bit. It's likely not evident on these boards, but several baby steps have been taken just in the past month to 5 weeks, and they all feel great, NO second thoughts or doubts, and I have a year ahead of me to keep doing the same thing.

I just hope that when he does finally reach out (and he will) that I will have changed enough for me that I will have the courage to say NO, and I mean it this time, NO. I've even tried the "let's just be friends" and always leads back to more than that FWB category.

Wow, who knew I could be longwinded at 530am?? ;)

Sorry bout that! :)












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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2009
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 10:24am

I especially love long-winded at any hour Nola.


I like how you are strong enough to put your foot down and say enough,

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2009
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 10:35am

Have you ever been contacted by or been in touch with an old sweetheart? Have you ever reached out to an old flame yourself?


I got an email from an old

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2009
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 3:04pm

Have you ever been contacted by or been in touch with an old sweetheart? Yes I have..In fact he and I

 


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-22-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 3:18pm

No, but i've been seriously tempted, except for worry of hurting DH's feelings.


It'd be very flattering to be contacted by an old flame.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-26-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 5:03pm

>>I like how you are strong enough to put your foot down and say enough, brave enough to try and keep to your decision and make changes, smart enough to know that it won't be easy to do so.<<

Oh dear sweet MrsP you give me way too much credit. As long as he stays out of my life, I'm fine. But as soon as he reaches out, I cave. I'm hoping this time (the 1000th time) is the charm.












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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 5:22pm
If you EVER are tempted to cave you better get your cute butt on these boards ASAP and let us talk you out of doing that!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-26-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 5:26pm
Yes sir!!!











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