Scared to swallow. How do I get over it?

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Registered: 02-18-2005
Scared to swallow. How do I get over it?
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Mon, 02-21-2005 - 9:42am
My SO has often asked me to let him cum in my mouth. I have never done that and I'm a little scared. How do I get over this? What techniques can I use? Any suggestions are welcome. This is something that I really want to do for him. And think about it constantly. I do go down on him that part is not a problem.
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Registered: 08-29-2004
Thu, 03-17-2005 - 12:14am

My wife has told me these things about it. First, although she knows what to expect, she is still startled everytime by the first ejaculation hitting the back of her throat and the reflex to gag, so she starts swallowing immediately. For her thats not the worst part, or the taste, its that semen has living sperm and they stick like peanut butter, but tingle as well. That she finds totally creepy, so she always has a beer on hand for a chaser(the only time she ever drinks beer, so when shes gets a beer out of the fridge I get excited)
Why does she do it? Because she thinks swallowing is the sexiest. She does it for ME, and becasue its what shed want.
And just for a suggestion, challenge your man a bit if hes pushy. I decided it wasnt fair for me to not know what I was asking for. Ive tasted my precum, which I have to say I LIKE. But we put a whole load into a shot glass and I drank it and while it was easier than having it shot down my throat I am sure, it tasted chalky and unpleasant and definitely tingly clingy. But doing that for her was very erotic .
there is I think nothing to really fear. Brussels sprouts taste worse, and the huge loads you see in movies are often artificial, you wont choke on too much of the real thing. And if its a psycological EWwww, youll have to think past it as my wife has, SHE thinks swallowing is sexier, and WANTS to do it for me, in spite of its nastiness. As long as HE wants it, so you are trying to do for him, it will be hard. He needs to let the issue go, and give you time to decide without pressure. If YIU think it is sexier and WANT to do it FOR him, and consider it a challenge for yourself, I think youll be far likelier to ENJOY finally doing it than if its giving in to him.
Make it YOUR goal.

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Registered: 07-21-2001
Tue, 03-08-2005 - 2:29pm

Tawny:

It took me a long time just to give oral. I knew he wanted me to swallow, but he was nice enough to never push me on it. For several reasons, I decided to give him that special treat. I hit the net and got tons of tips - so to speak.

The best tip I received was when he sparts to cum, don't just wait and swallow, but instead start sucking him like a straw and keep at it until he is finished and you have swallowed his load. By sucking, you actually don't taste much until you let go and you don't notice the consistancy of it. I have since come to enjoy the taste and the beauty of his cum in my mouth.

Good luck.

Parker.

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Mon, 02-28-2005 - 9:30pm
You know I don't swallow - I don't even come close to swallowing and that's oK with me and my DH. We have only been married for 2.5 years and we plan on being married a LONG time so we are good with having something totally new to look forward too - amybe on our 20th anniversary. ;-)

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Registered: 01-16-2005
Mon, 02-28-2005 - 12:48am

There are seveal different ways you can approach it. I would recommend trying to identify what about it makes you scared. Is it the taste? Is it the fear of gaging? For taste I would recommend having you SO eat more fruit, minimise coffee / tea drinking, and smoking. Also avoid food with alot of flavour (e.g. galic, chili peppers etc) as these will influence the taste of cum.

If it is a fear of gaging maybe start slowly. Maybe have him wear a condom at first and get yourself use to the feeling of him ejaculating in your mouth without taking his load. This will help you learn the cues that is reaching climax and prepare yourself without being shocked. As you get use to it and learn stop using the condom. This may prove to be successful.

The next question is swallowing. Not everyone who does oral on a male swallows. This is a choice for you to make.

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 9:26pm

tawny,


ok, here is MY pefeect bj instructions...it has a some on
tasting/swallowing at the end. good luck

Ok, first of all there are no real "mistakes" you could make, UNLESS he just plain doesn't enjoy bj's ...in which case, you probably won't be "doing" him anyway!

comfort: yours and his---YOURS is THE most important of the two, although his is a close second. YOU need to be in a position that allows about 5-15 minutes of your time/effort ---that is if you want to give great bj's. Ideas for your position: kneeling at the bedside, or other furniture
69 position
you laying next to him on the bed...etc. many ways ...all ok, if you both enjoy it.

ways to "do him"...eg...stuff that will blow his um...
mind:

concentrate on the tip of his penis, and about 2-3 inches down the shaft . those are the
most sensitive places . lick/suck up and down, and round and round . as you lick him and suck, vary the pressure with your tongue/mouth...sometimes slightly touching, sometimes with lots of pressure.
a great technique is to lock your lips on the underside of his penis and slide that "kiss" up and down his shaft a few times, then suck suck, suck several times. start again with the "sliding kiss" and suck suck suck. this will probably make him go ape.

now...repeated motion, up and down your guy's penis...in a steady rythym will make him come. you can use your hands in conjunction with your mouth. vary the rythym a little, but keep it going. if you stop for very long, he'll take longer to come .

taste: his sperm i haven't tasted, BUT--if it's like mine it will be creamy...
slightly sweet...barely salty, and MOST of all EROTIC.
but, it is an aquired taste. lick some off his belly
to start, OR let him come on your breasts/face/wherever
and using your finger, put some in your mouth. ask him to look as you do it...it will make him go wild, i bet!!

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Registered: 05-04-2003
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 9:26pm

I have a consistency problem. I also don't eat yogurt, soft ice cream and puddings.


My plan is just to deep throat and swallow hard so that it never even touches my mouth and apparently the muscle constriction of swallowing feels good for him too. I have been practicing the swallowing motion while going down on him lately.. and the fact that I am working on it for him has really made him feel good. ;-)


Take your time. He's waited 13 years -a few more months won't kill him.


Jennie

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Registered: 02-18-2005
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 5:14pm

Thank you. I have tasted his pre. That is not a problem. I guess what i am scared about is the consistency and me gaging and hurting his feelings. I get really turned on just thinking about doing it. But when it comes time and he warns me I always chicken out.

This is something I have to do. He has been asking for me to do this for 13 years. I feel that I am letting him down. It makes me really sad.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 02-21-2005 - 4:06pm

Welcome to Fantasies, Tawny.