Sex & Pain...help me understand

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Sex & Pain...help me understand
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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 7:51pm
For those of you that are into pain (giving or receiving), can you explain what is it about pain that turns you on?
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Sun, 06-22-2008 - 11:20pm

thanks so much for your reply.

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 8:12am

Seems I'm a little late to the party...but heres my two cents ~smile~


I'm not sure words can exactly articulate what it's like to be pleasured by pain. I have always had a ridiculously high tolerance for pain. Receiving a harsh whipping can leave you feeling the same as having an intense orgasm. The body feels numb and overstimulated and endorphins pump throuhg your body. Not everyone will experience that, as sisterhoney said, she is hard wired to feel pain as pleasure, I would say the same holds true for me. The line becomes very blurred, to the point you find youself craving that whip as much as having an orgasm.


On the emotional and psychological side of things, there is no greater gift between two partners. Steve was right on when he said that experiencing pain on the level we talk about strips you of every mask you wear and every attempt to sheild who you really are. Thats where the true power lies in pain play. Being stripped down to those bare emotions that you'd generally shy away from showing anyone takes you to

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 11:16am

Thanks to everyone who answered.

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 11:57am

You may have asked the one question we, who participate in such situations, cannot answer clearly. ~smile~

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 2:38pm

*nods to L* I think you explained it very well. It is very difficult for vanilla people to understand what we mean, because it seems that a lot of the time all we can say in way of explaining why we do what we do is "because it feels good" or "because it's fun." That seems to be my stock answers to people's questions. I know that vanilla people probably can't understand how being in a position of weakness can make us submissives strong, but it is very true. Bound to the bed, being flogged....that is when I feel the freest and the strongest. That is when I am truly myself and I am no longer hiding anything from Master. The flogger and the pain I am receiving from it strips away all my masks, all my defenses and leaves me open and vulernable to Him. He sees me as who and what I truly am. This is what love and trust are truly like.


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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 8:58pm
Ever had a lover who didn't want to have sex with the lights on? One who wasn't comfortable talking about what she liked and what she wanted in the bedroom? One whom you felt was never truly letting go when the two of you were intimate? Most people wear masks like that to one degree or another, even with someone they love, even if they've been in a committed relationship with their lover for years. It's absolutely impossible to maintain any sort of mask like that, in the face of the type and magnitude of pure sensation that one experiences during pain play. It strips you bare, and exposes your soul to the light of day, to your lover's gaze, naked and unmasked at last. It is a deeply and truly intimate experience.


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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:24pm

It strips you bare, and exposes your soul to the light of day, to your lover's gaze, naked and unmasked at last. It is a deeply and truly intimate experience.


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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:28pm
Evening, Kat.


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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:34pm
Hey there...

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:37pm
You're quite welcome. Hope the day was all you and Animal wanted it to be.