Sex & Pain...help me understand

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Sex & Pain...help me understand
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Fri, 06-20-2008 - 7:51pm
For those of you that are into pain (giving or receiving), can you explain what is it about pain that turns you on?
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Registered: 02-17-2008
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:42pm
Have had a FAB day and plans laid for the night...

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:44pm
Eh... walking is overrated... but getting screwed so hard that you CAN'T walk... YUMMMMM!


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Registered: 02-17-2008
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 9:48pm
LMAO!

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Registered: 08-24-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 9:34am

Okay, I dont know if this is weird or not.

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 9:55am

May I ask you a question?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 2:38pm
No, its not too personal at all.
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Registered: 08-03-2006
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 3:09pm

Being in a BDSM relationship myself I couldn't not respond to your last post. If your boyfriend was abusive in everyday situations what makes you think the agressive sex wasn't an extention of the abuse? It doesn't sound to me like his intent was to be in a BDSM relationship, but an abusive one. Does that make sense? There is a huge stigma that BDSM in and of itself is abuse. But in a committed loving relationship with two consenting adults it can become a thing of beauty. Thats not what I see from what you've described. WHile the sex may have been good from the sounds of it it wasn't a very healthy way to play out BDSM fantasies. If you don't mind my asking how far did you two take it? Did you have a safe word?


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Registered: 08-24-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 5:28pm
No we didnt have a safe word basically because I am up to try anything.
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Registered: 05-24-2008
Tue, 08-26-2008 - 6:26pm

I dont feel you need therapy.

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Registered: 07-07-2008
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 10:48am

Hi!