Sex & Pain...help me understand
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Sex & Pain...help me understand
| Fri, 06-20-2008 - 7:51pm |
For those of you that are into pain (giving or receiving), can you explain what is it about pain that turns you on?

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Okay, I dont know if this is weird or not.
May I ask you a question?
Being in a BDSM relationship myself I couldn't not respond to your last post. If your boyfriend was abusive in everyday situations what makes you think the agressive sex wasn't an extention of the abuse? It doesn't sound to me like his intent was to be in a BDSM relationship, but an abusive one. Does that make sense? There is a huge stigma that BDSM in and of itself is abuse. But in a committed loving relationship with two consenting adults it can become a thing of beauty. Thats not what I see from what you've described. WHile the sex may have been good from the sounds of it it wasn't a very healthy way to play out BDSM fantasies. If you don't mind my asking how far did you two take it? Did you have a safe word?
I dont feel you need therapy.
Hi!
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