Sexual fantasies

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Registered: 12-03-2012
Sexual fantasies
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Fri, 04-19-2013 - 12:55pm

I`m new here but I was curious, how would someone go about talking to their SO about their fantasies in the bedroom? 

My SO and I have a great sex life, but of course we all have our own secret desires. I am hesitant to bring mine up to him. I dont want him to think I`m a freak!! 

For instance, I have often fantasized about being held captive and forced to perform. That, and many other things. We have tried light bondage, him tying my arms, blindfolds, etc.. But how do I approach him and see if he would go further?? Also, how do I get him to talk about his fantasies? (besides two women, we have already been there). 

Any ideas or suggestions?? Thanks!

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Registered: 07-08-2013
Mon, 07-08-2013 - 2:10am
I've always had this fantasy that my BF would tie me to the bed with crepe paper, then tease me with his tongue... and if I broke the paper he'd stop... so I'd have to stay in control while he was making me cum.
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Registered: 10-11-2011
Wed, 06-12-2013 - 2:45pm

buy some toys and a good book have some wine and cheesecake and whip cream and start the teasing process.

whisper sweet lullaby words in his ear...

enjoy the sexy evening

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Registered: 06-09-2013
Sun, 06-09-2013 - 2:52pm
you offer him to read kamsutra book or find a good porn movie.
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Registered: 08-02-2004
Wed, 05-22-2013 - 12:53pm

I would maybe approach him by saying "Hey, we did what you wanted to do....now it's my turn to pick something.  Let's at least give it a try."  

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Fri, 04-19-2013 - 3:09pm
I have suggested a few movies with bondage with no results. He says hes not into that. But I am working on getting all the kids out of the house for the night. I will try your suggestions. I also know he has a major foot and pantyhose fetish, so I am going to start there and see how it winds up. But I am going to ask what he wants to try, thats for sure! Hope this turns out to be a great night, and maybe open a few doors dor us both! Thanks!!;))
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Registered: 01-03-2007
Fri, 04-19-2013 - 2:00pm

Honestly, if you've "already been there" with a two woman fantasy, I'd say that the door is open to discussing other things. Unless your man is super conservative, I don't think you'd run across too many things......why not find a porn that has something you want to bring up, and watch it together?

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Registered: 08-17-2007
Fri, 04-19-2013 - 1:48pm

So the light bondage and blindfolds and threesome; did you initiate those scenarios?  Asking him an open ended question should get the conversation started such as, "I really appreciate your helping me to fulfill my sexual fantasies...what can I do to help you fulfill yours?"