Something special....

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Something special....
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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 7:13am

Hey folks!

My lover will be home from his out of town job tonight, he is still a lil sick but I think he can handle things now.

Last weekend we didn't do anything sexual, well I gave him oral at one point, he said it felt good but just wasn't in the moment. Too sick...

We haven't gone this long without sex since we met therefor I am about to climb the walls! I want to do something really special for him. Get him in the mood and get REALLY Kinky!!!

Thought I would ask ya'll for some tips, tricks, ideas of what to do. I want to come right out of left field, completely take him by surprise and when we are done I want us both to be worn out, sore and satisfied.

We both love rough sex so with that in mind any thoughts?

Oh and I am rarely the aggressor, how does a woman get aggressive in bed? I usually submit to him and I LOVE being submissive! I am a take charge, run the world type at home and in the work place so when he makes me submit to him it really gets me worked up! I would like to turn the tables and make him submit, however he is a VERY dominate man. I don't think he has ever submitted to anyone for any reason! How would I go about this?




Edited 3/21/2008 7:16 am ET by sianakaylynn

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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 8:46am

Hello sianakaylynn


It's great that you are wanting to really blow him away. I would love to have my wife be that open for me when I come home from somewhere.


One tidbit is remember guys are very much visual. Make sure you are all dolled up. Great outfit(doesn't have to lingerie but that is good as well) hair done up, make up, and sexy shoes.


You can go with the direct approach and tell him that you will be taking charge this time(but make sure you have a game plan it loses something if you have to start guessing about what your next move will be). Or you can be subtle about it. just playing coy with teasing touches and flashes of skin. etc.


If you are really hot for him, you can meet him right at the door and just go down on him right there to set the tone for the session.


You can be aggressive by taking positions like Woman on top and really giving him the ride of his life. But you can also be aggressive by





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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 2:12pm

Thank you for your ideas!!

I have been sending him dirty text messages all day, told him I can't wait to feel his penis slide down the back of my throat, that I want to feel his hot cum shoot in my mouth and I want to lick up every last drop.

I also said, 'I want you to pull my head back, bite my neck and F me hard in my A$$, make me scream, make me cry, make me beg for you to never stop...'

I love sending him dirty messages!! LOL!

If he comes home too tired I think I might blow up! Have been abstaining from masturbating, been doing nothing but thinking about all the sexual pleasures we could give each other. I'm so worked up right now its SCARY!

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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 4:14pm

Wow, I am liking your ideas much better than mine lol.


You have a great mindset for what he will want...I don't care how tired I would be, I would not be able to turn down those types of advances.


cbh





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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 4:25pm

i'd have to agree with you that even though i may be tired when things start once the motor gets started it doesn't stop.


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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 5:00pm

A couple of thoughts.

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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 9:51pm

If you really, really want to take him by surprise. Go ahaed and use some of the ideas


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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 3:11am
...very interesting...so guys like this??
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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 6:38am
Some guys do. You'd want to know that he was wired for it before attempting something along the lines of Male's suggestion. There are many, many guys out there with latent (or not so latent) submissive desires who would totally get off on it, though.




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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 8:59am


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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 7:47am

My lover would NEVER allow me to do that to him. I did say he is an VERY dominant man...

I wanted to give him something special however I am the one who got the surprise of her life this weekend....

I went to his house Friday night, a couple of his friends were there, I was thinking great just great. But hey I love his friends! We all went out to see a local band play. After that we went back to his house and this is where things got interesting...

My lover went upstairs to play pool with some of the guys. he has a pool table in his attic, the attic is more game room then it is an attic. Hence the pool table. I stayed downstairs with some other people. It was turning out to be a pretty regular night, good friends, good beer, good times. So much for my plans eh? I wasn't upset, it was fun to hang out with everyone, and I knew eventually everyone would leave and it would be him and me. I found myself talking to his very best friend and then I confessed that I am falling in love with Clint, thats my lover. His friend surprised me by telling me to tell him because he knows for a fact that Clint is already in love with me.

I was shocked, speechless even. His friend and I talked a long time, I made my mind up to tell Clint what is going on in my heart the next day....

Eventually Clint came back downstairs and sat with me on the couch. Slowly one by one everyone started to leave. Finally it was just him, his best friend and me. his friend said he was calling it a night, gave me a hug and kiss whispered in my ear, 'talk to him I know he is waiting to hear it from you.' I gave him a kiss back said I would. We shut the door went upstairs and I thought we would make love then but he seemed rather chatty.

We lay in bed talking, at one point I sat up looked at him said, 'I have to tell you something and I want you to be honest with me about what you think, and how you feel about it ok?' He propped himself up on a pillow looked at me said, 'I'm always honest with you, whats on your mind?'

I began a long speech of how I like my independence, how I don't NEED a man, how for the first time in my life I am with someone because I WANT to be with him. I told him how I fight caring for him with everything I have and how I had no intentions on starting a relationship so soon after my marriage but here we are and well I'm falling in love with you....

Ugggg....

He looked at me for the longest time, I was starting to feel really dumb for opening my big mouth and started to speak again when he covered my mouth with his hand looked really hard into my eyes and said, 'I know you don't need me, I know you choose to be with me, you even put up with all my wild ways, your strong, independent, smart, funny, beautiful and I love you too.'

Oh God...

I have never in my life been so thrilled and yet so terrified at the same time.

We just looked at each other for the longest time, then he kissed me, slowly tenderly, sweetly and while we were kissing he whispered the words, our breaths mingling lips touching and he said, 'I love you Teri, you and only you.'

Then he made the sweetest love to me, so genital so sweet so filled with passion.

I have been married twice, in three serious relationships in my entire 36 years but this was the first time I have ever experienced real love making. Freely giving our hearts, minds and body's to each other. We don't need each other, were comfortable in our lives as they are but we WANT each other and that made all the difference in the world.

I LOVE HIM!

OMG I'm in love, and he loves me! I can't believe it!

So the night I wanted to be so special, well it certainly was. We made love for hours and hours and HOURS. We were tender, rough, sweet, hard, adoring, demanding we were everything! And we shared a part of ourselves we had both sworn to never give away, yet here we are and it was amazing.




Edited 3/24/2008 7:47 am ET by sianakaylynn

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