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| Fri, 03-21-2008 - 7:13am |
Hey folks!
My lover will be home from his out of town job tonight, he is still a lil sick but I think he can handle things now.
Last weekend we didn't do anything sexual, well I gave him oral at one point, he said it felt good but just wasn't in the moment. Too sick...
We haven't gone this long without sex since we met therefor I am about to climb the walls! I want to do something really special for him. Get him in the mood and get REALLY Kinky!!!
Thought I would ask ya'll for some tips, tricks, ideas of what to do. I want to come right out of left field, completely take him by surprise and when we are done I want us both to be worn out, sore and satisfied.
We both love rough sex so with that in mind any thoughts?
Oh and I am rarely the aggressor, how does a woman get aggressive in bed? I usually submit to him and I LOVE being submissive! I am a take charge, run the world type at home and in the work place so when he makes me submit to him it really gets me worked up! I would like to turn the tables and make him submit, however he is a VERY dominate man. I don't think he has ever submitted to anyone for any reason! How would I go about this?
Edited 3/21/2008 7:16 am ET by sianakaylynn

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OK I know, I know, I'm crazy!
Since I have had time to come down from that love high I am starting to feel weird. I know I love him, well at least IN love with him and I know he feels the same and that should make me really happy. It does but at the same time it freaks me out!
I don't want things to change! They already are changing though! He is sweeter, touches me more often and looks at me with care, he even canceled on his guy friends Saturday night in order to be with JUST me. We spent every minute of the entire weekend together, it was nice but I started to see a side of him I never thought about. A settling down side, a responsible side!
I'm afraid he is going to try to get into 'my' world. I'm a mom, work in the corporate world of accountants, big business decisions, and RESPONSIBILITY. Up until we confessed our feelings for each other my world and our world have been as seprate as night and day.
I had my durring the week life, be a mom be a profesional, make dinner every evening, grocery shopping, pay the bills take the kids out for dinner spend quality time with them. You know all those things you do because your a parent and a buisness woman.
The weekends were all about letting my hair down, throwing caution to the wind and allowing my sprit free reign!
My darling lover is wild and crazy, drinks a lil too much, is cocky as all get out and basically the guy most likely to get arrested! LOL! I love every bit of it!
Ever since the confession of our feelings though something is different there. He seems a bit more stable, more down to earth, maybe even a tad responsible! Its as though since he admitted to caring about me he feels he now must prove himself as a good man to be with.
You know how men who are looking for someone to settle down with will show they are good providers, know how to take care of themselves and their male instinct to put you under their arm and care for you? He is doing that, subtly. Not right out there Wham bam CHANGE, but a slight difference. Understand?
I don't want him to do that!!!!
I want the wildness, the devil may care 'tude. I want him to be HIM and not 'the perfect mate.'
I just want him to be himself, the same guy I fell for, nothing more, nothing less.
Does any of what I said make sense to y'all?
Hi! Forgive me, I don't remember if we've really talked before. I am losing my marbles, lol.
Anyway, I understand what you mean. Are you afraid of getting serious or do you just not want to progress any further? There's no law that says that relationships have to progress from casual to serious, dating to commitment, to serious living together/marriage. Now, it's true that many relationships do progress that way, but they don't have to. How does your guy feel about it? Do you think he'd be happy to just maintain where you are?
I'm afraid of getting too serious, even though allowing yourself to care and fall in love is pretty serious all by its self. I do care, I am IN love with him but, I'm freaked out...
I want things to stay the same, its why I fought my feelings in the first place. I didn't want to open that door but then I went and did it. I also never thought until his friend told me that he would/could care for me like that.
Now that its out there I am panicking. Having a hard time nailing down whats going on inside me.
I married my first husband because I was 17 years old, knocked up and dumb. My second relationship I gave that man everything I had and in the end got broke in half. My second marriage, well I never really loved him, HE loved me and I wanted to be loved, thought I could grow to love him and in the end I did love him but not the way I should.
This is different. For the first time in my life I accepted someone for who they are, didn't try to change him in any way. Never tried to take charge, just allowed things to flow their natural way. I realized I was falling for him, freaked me out something awful. I backed off, then we hooked up again. I kept my feelings in check then suddenly I realized that its there, the feelings and they aren't going away.
I took his friends advice and told him, found out he feels the same and now I am in major panic over drive!
Is this normal or am I just a special kind of weird?
Is this normal or am I just a special kind of weird?
That made me laugh, not because I'm laughing at you. It just sounds like something I ask my friend all the time. :)
Anyway, it's obvious you've been hurt before and it sounds to me like you're just scared. Falling in love IS scary. It means losing
Couldn't figure out who to reply to, you both pointed out some major things....
First off
MARRIAGE!!!??!!!
CRIPES!!!
I have known him all of 6 MONTHS!!!!!!!!!!
My second marriage was spur of the moment, I knew him for 3 months! Our families, yes both sides, yelled about living together sinfulness, that was my sister and his mother talking, my mom? LOL! She says if it feels good do it...
Eh Marriage is the single most LAST thing on my mind! The thought makes me quake...
Living together? That means I would have to give up control of my life outside the relationship and THAT isn't going to happen, not any time within the next 6 months to a year maybe LONGER! I like being on my own, no man to depend on and don't think I could EVER share a bank account, maybe not even a HOME with a man. All that is too soon for me.
I have been thinking all day and I believe I know what started the freak out...
Sunday, Easter Sunday, the kids were with their dad and the youngest called me, she wanted to go to late afternoon services with her girlfriend then wanted to come home. Well I'm a mom and had to look at my lover and say, 'duty calls! gotta run home!' He said if she wanted to bring her back to his house. I hesitated, my middle daughter has been texting him, getting to know him somewhat this way and I have been sorta OK with that. The oldest has moved out on her own is about to make me a grandma... lets not go there....
Anyhow the oldest has met him, thinks he is hot as... well HOT!!! ((I think I should add here that my lover is VERY different from other men I have been with, he is young, 29 and is VERY good looking, think underwear model or Dane Cook!)) She also thinks he is cool but for the most part could care less. Now my baby is 15 and she is the sunshine of my life, the golden child, the genius. All A's ALWAYS, in choir and all sorts of sports 'n things, wants to be a doctor, participates in doctor camps at colleges every summer and has since she was 12... ok, braggin, eh can't help it that kid is AMAZING!!!
So I hesitated, never before has my home life met my lover life. I looked around the house it was somewhat clean, at least I had already gotten rid off all the beer bottles and cans. Suddenly he says to bring my BABY to his house!!!???
Ahhhhh....
I told him I would ask her, went home paid the neighbor kid for walking my dogs, feeding and watering them for the weekend. Nanny came home a couple minutes later, her name is Brandy but we call her Nan, or Nanny dunno why...
We chatted a few minutes then I said, 'umm Clint said if you wanted we could go to his house? Would you like to do that?' She got all excited said, 'YES!!! OMG I get to MEET him!' I was surprised and taken aback by her excitement so I took her and wonder of wonders....
I showed her the house, he lives in the historical district of our town, his house is over 200 years old, maybe close to 300 years old, no original deed or anything, one of the first in our town and has been in his family for as long as they can remember. So yeah its a NICE house, would I be with someone who has a crappy one? LOL!
Now my children have been raised to appreciate antiques, I have many of my own and cherish them so Nan knew what she was looking at in the wood work in his home and commented intelligently, very much impressing my lover. Then she saw the piano in the front foyer and said, 'hey mom! you used to play! Is it in tune? Can you play and I will sing!'
LOL!!!
Darling child! I haven't played in YEARS!!!
I blushed horridly said ok I would TRY. We started with a family favorite, Amazing Grace. I was AWFUL then my lover, darling man he is took over and the next thing I knew they were rockin out Bon Jovi, AC DC, Lynyrd Skynird and you name it!! Now I knew he has musical talents, he has a piano, drums and 5 guitars, DUH!!! The man OBVIOUSLY loves MUSIC!!! I never heard him play before Easter, and my Nanny, well she can SING!!!!
I pulled a stool up and we sat there, Nan singing, Clint playing piano and me listening to them smiling, we drank wine, I cooked, they played for HOURS. He even started teaching her how to play the piano, she has ALWAYS wanted to do that but well it never happened..
It was really nice, very sweet, very DOMESTIC!! and for the FIRST time my home life met up and rubbed right against my weekend/lover wild life and after a few days of that settling in I'm scared to freakin DEATH!!!
he has texted me, called me twice. I answered the second phone call we talked then I said I had to go soup was done and we had to have dinner...
IDK, I feel weird now. He is great, I accepted him the way he was, wild, VERY wild, drink too much, party too long, for crying out loud he has a punching bag right smack in the middle of this LOVELY old home right in the middle of his living room!!!! I accepted that oddness, I didn't try to change it, its part of what makes him HIM.
I am a take charge kind of gal, I am the disciplinarian when it comes to the kids, always have been, always will be. I am the one who pays the bills, who makes the rules, who does it all with a smile on her face and makes it all look easy!
This, this 'thing' I have with my lover was suposed to be a one night stand! It wasn't suposed to be 6 months later and now your making music with my daughter!!! No man I ever dated did that before! However I never accepted anyone as they were before either. Maybe this is just a part of him he didn't feel free to show before? maybe he had to be kewl because he is so sexy? yet he LOVES being sexy!!! He KNOWS he is sexy! If you could see us together you would wonder WHY!!!!???!!! I'm not ugly but I am certainly not the type you would expect to see with this HOT young man! DEFINITELY not the kind of woman you would think would be a match for him... IDK...
I didn't expect to say, 'I'm falling in love with you.' to come out and be so AHHHHH!!!!!
Am I thinking too much?
The thing with my daughter actually going to his house and spending time with him IS really bugging me. Everything felt good, exciting, kewl, amazing BEFORE we said the words, BEFORE Nanny went to his house and they had that 'bonding' moment. Now its more ummmm.... Feelings are there, yeah they are there, but ahhh DON'T BOND WITH MY KID!!!! PLEASE be your same old wild crazy get drunk and be a butt hole self!!! I LOVE THAT!!!
OK so I'm a special kinda weird now hmm?
Oh, okay. Well now it's official. You are a special kind of weird! LOL I mean that in a good way though.
I'm thinking you really need to talk to him. I'm sure he probably didn't think too much of inviting your daughter over, because he sounds pretty carefree. Now for you, that's a big thing. He probably has no clue how big that is, especially for you. I could say more, but it all really boils down to talking to him and letting him know where you stand. Keep us posted!
Adding more to the special kind of weird thing...
After I posted that I talked about it with a girlfriend and yeah there is more to the story than I share with you all, shoot there is more than I share with my girlfriend!
the thing with my daughter, really has me goin... Us vs real life...
one of the things I love about my lover is I can tell him ANYTHING, but suddenly I'm scared to share something with him. Not sure how it will come out, kinda like when all the feelings would rush up and meet right after a wonderful night of wild sex and he gave me a great orgasm and suddenly I wanted to say, no I wanted to SCREAM
I LOVE YOU!!!!!
Yet I didn't DARE?
Kinda like that but not the same...
Ohhhh why did I have to spoil everything and open my stupid MOUTH!!!
Things were fine the way they were but no I had to tell him how I felt and hear how he feels and have the best sex of my life and get stupid and take my daughter over there and... BLA...
I wanna go back to simple this is about sex and having fun, everything else just scares the ever livin day lights outta me....
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