Ok I know this is the place to ask. I know I have my ideas of what being a collared submissive is but can someone give me more information on this? I was just wondering and I know this board has a ton of information. Please fill me in and thank you ........
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As for how it (submission) can be empowering, Lothiriel can also speak to this, but when you're in the middle of a scene, particularly a heavy pain scene, the sensations are almost overpowering
Steve is absolutly correct in his above statement. In this type of situation there is absolutly no place to hide, the exposure and vulnerability you experience is unlike anything that can really be explained with words. Every sense become heightened to a point where (often times) you lose control over every part of your body and you feel your mind could explode at any given second. Your partner will see every part of you, every physical reaction, every emotion, even by just the slightest movement in your face. If your partner knows you well enough, a simple crinkling of your nose can give away your soul. As Steve mentioned the sensations of hevay pain and pleasure do meld into one, and you get to a point where you can no longer tell the difference.
Thank you both for inviting me into your world. Explaining so much to me. I had no idea! I know everyone reading these post is asking themselves, why is Hotallthe time asking these questions. Well I started reading a book and was just wondering how this lifestyle works. I figured the best way to understand is to ask people who live it. Is this lifestyle for me, at this point no. I am going threw a lot emotionally and dont' think it would be healthy for me. In the future when I am whole, if I met the right person I might consider it. Like Lothiriel said you have to be in a good place and not enter in unless you are sure you can handle it.
Lothiriel
Isn't it interesting how we live with men who are in control of the whips, paddles, floggers, restraints, etc., things that could potentially harm us a great deal (in a bad way), and yet we have never felt safer or more secure? People, like your mother, only think that this relationship is one of abuse. Some of us, like myself, have been abused in vanilla relationships, and the D/s relationship is so completely different from that. I used to live in fear of my ex and with good reason. But I have never been fearful of Master like that. Yes, fear is a part of it, like when you're bound and blindfolded and gagged and don't know what He's planning. But that's a good kind of fear and only heightens the desire and need. Living in fear of your life is a whole other thing and people on the outside can't see the difference between the two.
ok you have me curious.
Lothiriel
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