Taking on the dominant role.
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| Thu, 09-11-2008 - 1:24pm |
My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, we are both each others first sexual experience and first serious relationship (we're in our twenties). We used play around with the idea a lot before we had sex that I would dominate him and do all kinds of things to him and he found it a complete turn on to be dominated. I've always been a take charge, dominant kind of person in real life and assumed that's how I'd be in bed. Well, it's the complete opposite and after two years of us being in a sexual relationship, he stated that he was disappointed that I wasn't a take charge kind of person in bed (though our sex life is good otherwise). Now the thought of it just doesn't appeal to me, but I want to be able to change up and not do the same things in bed. What can I do to

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When you've discussed this before, what kinds of things were talked about? What does he want done to him? If it doesn't really appeal to you anymore, I think you need to express that to him. I don't really have any info to give you, but there are others here that are more into this and I'm sure they'll give you some great advice.
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Hey there and welcome to the boards!
I am very much like you are, very dominant in everyday life, but a complete submissive in bed. My DH and I ventured into BDSM several years back. He as my dominant and myself his submissive. It has been the most wonderful thing in the world for us. But, (and here comes my 'safety spiel' lol) The first thing you two need to do is talk it out.( and settle on a safe word)
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Thanks tami!
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