Texting naked pictures?

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Registered: 01-30-2013
Texting naked pictures?
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Fri, 03-01-2013 - 4:35pm

I have been dating a guy for probably a month or a month and a half now. We see each other every other day during the week and every weekend evening. We are exclusively hooking up, and to be perfectly honest, I have never felt so connected to another person than with him. With that being said, I trust this guy and know that if things didn't work out romantically between us we would definitely still maintain a friendship. I am visting my parents in another state this weekend and he has drill in another state this weekend, as well. Would it come across as desperate if I texted him a naked picture this weekend, or would it be something he appreciated? Just looking for some other people's opinions on sexting.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Fri, 03-01-2013 - 8:59pm

  Never ever put on the web something you would not want everyone to see.  No nudes ever!  Trust him really? Do you trust everyone who might use his phone?  In these time of "transparency"  it is conceivable that even "innocent" stupidity can cause trouble.  people are stupid when it come to cyber security.  remember even if it does not come out today tomorrow is a different story.  Police has "capture technology" that allows them to read you phone with out you giving them passwords.  Twenty years ago this was not possible.  Today it is.  They can scan facial recognition for advertisements  like that in minority report think of how your employer would love nude pictures of you on the internet.

    Yes i know you are in the bloom of new love,lust etc.  And no matter what warnings we give will not be believed since you think the world will not reach out and touch you.  Just remember I told you so.

http://www.presseurop.eu/en/content/article/3449501-selling-spyware-trap-dissidents

http://news.cnet.com/8301-17938_105-20055431-1.html

chaika

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Registered: 02-23-2013
Sat, 03-02-2013 - 4:36am

If this is something you really feel comfortable doing, I say do it. Just be sure you really think about it, though - once it's out there, it's out there. I also recently came across a website where people have submitted photos like that, that  their girlfriends/wives/exes have sent them.

When I decided to start doing nude modeling now and then, I gave it a LOT of thought, weighing all the possible consequences. Would it embarrass you for anyone other than him to see the photo? If so, either don't do it or else take the photo without your face being in the shot. 

I take photos for a guy I've been talking to, and I've sent photos to other guys I've been involved with before, too. Do you talk sexy on the phone either by voice or through text? If not, then I might start with something like that first to guage your comfort level a little more.

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Registered: 12-05-2010
Fri, 03-08-2013 - 12:03am

Civil Procedure-

Like XXXS, I also advise caution. There have been plenty of women who think they can trust a guy with nude pictures only to find out otherwise. Once the photo is sent out there, it can be shared with the world. Indeed, there are a number of sites specializing in pictures of ex-girlfriends and ex-wives. From your call name, it sounds like you're a lawyer. If everyone in a courtroom has seen you naked, it can impact on your career. So, my recommendation is no nude photos.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Fri, 03-08-2013 - 11:47pm

There's an article in today's newspaper........there are no more paper resumes.  When you apply for a job, you are researched on line and in social media.  There are also picture searches.  If you ever have to look for a decent job, you may regret putting something like that out there!  And everyone is trusting  in the beginning.......4 to 6 weeks isn't really a relationship yet.  You don't know enough about him to trust him......and when it ends, your picture could be all over the internet.

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Registered: 07-28-2011
Wed, 03-13-2013 - 7:05pm

I agree with everyone about proceding with caution. Instead of nude photos, why not send him a picture of you in some sexy lingerie? Leave a little to the imagination. 

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Registered: 03-14-2013
Thu, 03-14-2013 - 11:55pm
As a man, I will say this... We love that stuff. Nothing makes us more excited than getting a hot pic in a text. It's the visual / caveman thing that is hard for women to understand, but trust me, we love it. Now, that being said... I also agree you should protect yourself. Things can and often do go bad in relationships and you don't want something in the wrong hands (potentially) that you wouldn't share with your own mother. Here's my suggestion: Don't show your face. It sounds terrible, but unless you have your face in the photo (or some undeniable tattoo) it's harmless. Just a thought.
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Registered: 08-02-2004
Thu, 03-21-2013 - 1:15pm

As a man, I think it's cool what you are thinking about doing.  I like it, very sexy.  But I also agree that you should know he may not be the only person seeing it.  I use to take naked pictures of my first wife before digital pictures.  We knew some guy developing pictures was going to see them but we didn't mind.  

I was in the military and some young guys would show around pictures of their wives or girlfriends wearing lingerie.  I used to think it was strange they wanted to share that but it does happen.  

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Registered: 03-24-2013
Sun, 03-24-2013 - 9:31am

I wouldn't do it. I might send a facial picture with a warm smile or even flirty expression but as for my body, I would wait for him or her to see it in person. There are too many innocent acts that can come back to haunt people and that's true of married couples as of singles. If you don't want your grandmother to see the photo don't have it taken. But you could reverse the tables and ask him for one first.

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Registered: 05-09-2012
Sun, 04-07-2013 - 2:44pm

My recommendation is that, like the lizard in the tv ad says, "Let it go, Louie".  The risk is a lot greater at this time in your life than the possible reward.  A year or so after I was married, my wife started sending me CARE packages in my suitcase....Tongue Out