Threesomes

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Registered: 04-17-2012
Threesomes
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Tue, 04-17-2012 - 10:12pm

I'm curious about threesomes... thinking about exploring this new world of sexual fantasy and was wanting some feedback. Any advice?

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Registered: 03-28-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 12:28am
Me and my boyfriend are wanting to try it to. So good luck on your journey. We are having trouble finding another girl.
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Registered: 01-03-2007
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 9:47am

Yes, finding the other girl is usually the biggest challenge before the threesome. Dealing with jealosy and hurt feelings is the biggest challenge afterwards.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 7:59am

I would say that first you both need to be very secure in your relationship. Then you need to talk, talk, talk, and then talk some more about it. What will you be able or not be able to do? Have some rules in place.



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Registered: 04-20-2012
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 7:01pm

I've got a bit of experience here. You definitely need to talk about it to the nth degree. You need to have this discussion in a sort of clinical setting (ie: not using it as foreplay or getting worked up sexually over the discussion). You need to recognize that jealousy happens, and it is a reasonable and understandable reaction to this sort of experiment. You need to give each other a safe place to discuss ground rules and deal breakers, and you need to absolutely respect those and not deviate from them. It's not a bad idea to make a hard and fast rule of no sex play at the first meeting, so the two of you can discuss how you feel things might work out with the potential third partner without the charged up sexual energy of the meeting coloring the discussion.

There are plenty of online places to meet people. It can be easier if the female looks for the third partner. It's obviously a great deal easier to find a male third than a female (but I've had success with both).

Those are some of the first things that occur to me. I'm sure I can come up with more if you want. I've done this perhaps twenty times or so with my partner, and we're very happy together and things have worked out really well, but we spent a great deal of time planning everything and we still had some bumps.

(I'm new here and I think I may have screwed up the reply convention. This was supposed to be in reply to the original poster.)

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Registered: 04-17-2012
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 7:45pm

No, you are all great! Thanks so much for all the advice... I greatly appreciate it!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-27-2005
Sun, 04-22-2012 - 1:38pm

I as a male have this fantasy. But mine is a bit


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Registered: 04-23-2012
Mon, 04-23-2012 - 1:42pm
i want a threesome with my partner and another girl but it really is hard to find anyone. i recently had a threesome with another couple as me n my partner arent exclusive. i would love a threesome with twomen but they are harder to find than women!
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Registered: 03-11-2013
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 5:01pm

Before me and my boyfriend got together I had a good thing going with my ex fiance and his wife (who is my ex girlfriend).  They had been wanting a threesome but didn't know of anyone that they could trust.  They had talked about it for quite a few months before it became her idea that they ask me to give this a try with them.  Our little adventure I guess you could call it went on for about 4 months before it started to seem like I was their girlfriend, but things ended in a big fight when my life started to get busier and busier!  So threesomes are some crazy fun times, and it there was almost a possible oppsy which we were all ok with, things ended and we almost lost our friendships over it.  When doing threesomes it's better to be crazy safe than insanely sorry!