What is attraction of these boards for you?

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Registered: 10-29-1998
What is attraction of these boards for you?
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Sat, 07-21-2012 - 8:18pm

I enjoy reading and posting on these boards for several reasons. One of the primary ones is knowing that the ladies I am hearing from are here because they have an interest in sex. They are not here for a commercial reason. They have a genuine interest and they are also interested in other people's opinions and helping other people. I know that at least a few of you have sexual websites which does not bother me. You are not on here trying to sell your site; you are here because you enjoy sex and like to talk with people about it.

I occasionally look at porn, but I much prefer to read about and talk to real women because I know I am getting their real feelings, thoughts, and lives and not what they think I want to hear (or see) so that I will pay them for it. It is like having an anonymous conversation with my female friends or the attractive ladies up and down my street which we would probably never have if we were talking face to face.

I guess I am trying to say that being on these boards is a turn on for me. I also feel that I make friends on here, they may be virtually friends, but I value their friendship nonetheless.

I would love to hear what others get out of these boards; both females and males.

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Registered: 12-25-2006
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 9:24am

The attraction of these boards for me has changed over time.

I began posting on Taboos back in 2006.  Then I ventured over here, then over to LTAS, and SOMS.  A lot of boards that existed back then aren't here anymore.  The place has changed a lot over 6 years.

I found the place from a link in an article on perimenopausal symptoms (especially increased libido in women in their 40's).  That had happened to me and I wanted to learn some more about it.  I haven't stopped learning new things yet!

I've found friendship here.  People willing to share their experiences with me so that I could make decisions with more information.  I found that I didn't have to be lonely on holidays because there was someone on here most of the time back then.  I actually joined on Christmas Eve of '06. It doesn't say that anymore but that's the truth.  I figured I was the only person surfing on a computer alone on that night.  I wasn't and I had a lovely conversation with a member.  

Life has had its ups and downs since then for me.  I've found helping hands and shoulders to lean on.  I've also found the occassional much-needed butt kick when I've needed that, too.

One thing that surprised me was that I had something to offer to others at stressful times in their lives.  I had advice.  I was on the 'older' side of the members so my experience was there to just explain to the younger ones so that they could take it or not.  I've helped male and female members through health crises (that's my field of work) and family deaths.  I've experienced enough of those that I think I am able to at least be a caring listener.

I've found an honesty here not just about sexual issues, but also about life.  We come here to talk about sex but it doesn't exist in a vacuum, life's there, too, pounding away at us as we try to derive some sexual satisfaction out of it.  

It's a place where I experience freedom to express myself and don't get 'hit on' by trolls much.  I've found dear friends here, both male and female that I keep up with off the boards around the world.

I wish for the 'old days' a lot when I come here but nothing stays the same.  There are people who no longer come around and I miss their presence here.  Some were treated poorly here (not by the members) and I fully understand and support their decision to leave.  Doesn't mean they aren't missed.

I'm rambling, but I think you get the idea.  Sex brought me here and the people I met caused me to stay (and come back every now and then).

It is a place that is what you make it.  I believe I'll always feel welcome here.....hope so, anyway!

Moon

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Registered: 11-18-2011
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 10:56am
I love boobs!
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Registered: 11-18-2011
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 10:56am
I mean...I love the boards!
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Registered: 09-01-2010
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 2:37pm

Likewise, I feel that I can occasionally help someone who is going through something that I too have experienced.

However, there is another reason why I am attracted to these boards.  I was raised in a sheltered family.  I don't regret that, but it resulted in a conservatism in personal behavior that doesn't always match what I am thinking.  These boards allow me to figuratively drop my pants and let those thoughts out!  LOL

Half of hockey is mental, the other half is being mental.
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Registered: 10-29-1998
Fri, 08-17-2012 - 12:28am

Moon,

Thanks for a beautiful and meaningful response. I started coming here before you and share many of your feelings about the board and the people. I remember when they had a chat room with a topic of the day to discuss for an hour or so. The rest of the time it was pot luck. I met some wonderful people there and enjoyed both conversation and some torrid affairs in the private rooms. When they dropped the chat room I stopped posting and gradually stopped coming here. I have only recently come back and found some of the people from back then still here along with some other fine folks. As you say, it has changed a lot over the years, but it is and has been one of the best sites I have found.

Thanks again for your post.

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Sun, 08-19-2012 - 5:40pm

OH, I thought those were planets in your profile picture.  They must be alien boobs.

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Registered: 05-09-2004
Sun, 08-19-2012 - 6:03pm

I first came to iVillage in 2003, seems like a lifetime ago.  And boy has the place changed in appearance.  However, the fundamentals are still the same.  This is still a place where people can feel free to express themselves, get advice and information, share their knowledge and thoughts, flirt a bit, be friendly and there is always something here that ends up turning me on.

I've met a lot of people here, but I made two truly wonderful friends through these boards.  If for no other reason, this place will always hold a dear spot in my heart.  One in particular filled my life with banter here, in emails, and on chat.  I don't know how I would have survived mid-life doldrums without him.

I used to be a regular fixture here.  For some, I was a breath of fresh air.  For some, I was monopolizing and opinionated.  And there were some that found me to be somewhat of a trouble maker (I never intended  to say things that would close down that entire thread).  My personal life took on a lot more activity the past few years, so I meander back to the boards whenever I can.  I'm glad to see familiar faces and happy that I don't feel the new faces want to run me out of town.

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Fri, 07-12-2013 - 10:27pm

I haven't been on these boards for very long, but for me it is the freedom to express myself sexually.  I am a quiet, shy person who loves sex.  I am fortunate to have a husband who is still into me after 30 years.  But I don't have anyone except my hubby to talk about sex with.  I feel like a weirdo sometimes, as I am menopausal, but still love sex.  It is so nice to read what others have to say.