what would you do ??

Ooh, that one is tougher than the usual problems posed here. Most people have and idea in their head, and the first thing we say is "dialogue", "talk about it" and you already have. However, what you have talked about is her spanking you, and now you wonder about having a pro spanker.

First of all, have you discussed bringing in a "consultant" with DW? Will it hurt her? Do you know that, or are you just assuming? If your need is so great, then you should openly discuss it, and see where that leads. You say you don't want her to "find out", so don't go sneaking behind her back, be open about it.

Of course I live in a liberal area with comparatively liberal minded people. Where you are this may be bizarre, but around here, its not that strange.

To sum up - talk to her. But don't make it an ultimatum "Woman - If you don't spank me I'll go get a ho who can" would be a terrible thing to say.

We have probably all crossed limits for the one we love, and we have all asked as much as we can of our loved ones. Sometimes the limit is the limit.