what would you do ??

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Registered: 03-18-2012
what would you do ??
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Sun, 03-18-2012 - 8:29am

Hello everybody, just a little back ground first. WM married 22 years, we have a great marriage and I still love her very much.Raised 3 great kids(in college) and have a nice happy life. The problem is with me. For some time (5years) I have wanted her to give me a spanking. She has tried numerous times but she just can't bring herself to do it. So now I am thinking about hiring a pro spanker, no sex that's not what I want, we have a great sex life. I'm nervous because I don't want to hurt her and if she ever found out I think it would. So I guess my question is what would you do ?? Also how could I get her to do it instead? We have talked about it plenty of times and she keeps telling me its too much for her. I don't want to ruin my marriage over this

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Registered: 04-04-2012
Sat, 04-07-2012 - 8:21am
I've never heard of a pro spanker. I'm assuming this is a sexual fantasy, so if you hired a pro spanker (if that's possible) how would you refrain from the whole sexual experience if spanking is a turn on for you? And it's unfortunate that your mate can't do this for you. I feel like as your mate she should be the one to want to do this for you. I don't understand the unwillingness.
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Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 4:26pm

Bruce,

Is that the ONE thing that your wife doesnt do that you want? Is this the only thing you want badly that she has "refused" to do?

Ivy

 


 


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Registered: 10-10-2010
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 11:56pm

Typically we are very open minded her, with a very much "whatever floats your boat" attitude, but we do tend to have a preference for consensual and informed.

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Registered: 08-01-2006
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 8:03am

Hi there. I agree with Alex... it's not something you want to do behind her back. I wonder how it would go if you offered to spank her first and see how that goes? I do like the idea of a "consultant" type woman to help your wife and to show her how it's done.

Have you tried googling to find a book or video on it?



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Registered: 10-10-2010
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 1:59am
Ooh, that one is tougher than the usual problems posed here. Most people have and idea in their head, and the first thing we say is "dialogue", "talk about it" and you already have. However, what you have talked about is her spanking you, and now you wonder about having a pro spanker.

First of all, have you discussed bringing in a "consultant" with DW? Will it hurt her? Do you know that, or are you just assuming? If your need is so great, then you should openly discuss it, and see where that leads. You say you don't want her to "find out", so don't go sneaking behind her back, be open about it.

Of course I live in a liberal area with comparatively liberal minded people. Where you are this may be bizarre, but around here, its not that strange.

To sum up - talk to her. But don't make it an ultimatum "Woman - If you don't spank me I'll go get a ho who can" would be a terrible thing to say.

We have probably all crossed limits for the one we love, and we have all asked as much as we can of our loved ones. Sometimes the limit is the limit.