Wife Wants To Peg Me

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Registered: 11-22-2006
Wife Wants To Peg Me
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Fri, 07-05-2013 - 2:53pm

My wife wants to peg me, but I want her to enjoy it as much as possible, which means that she comes, too. Does anyone here have enough experience to advise us what harnesses, etc. etc. are the best so that she is able to come along with me? And if you have experience, do you have any further advice for a pair of beginners?

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Registered: 08-03-2007
Tue, 05-06-2014 - 3:41pm
I so badly want my wife to peg me. I think it would be great and something new for us in bed. Just thinking about it is a turn on. I know she would flip out if I even mentioned it. I will just continue to dream.
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Registered: 02-25-2010
Wed, 08-28-2013 - 2:14pm

Make sure the harness has a vibrator to stimulate her clitoris while she does you. Also select a vibrating dildo like Vibrating Mistress. My wife always cums when she does me. Pegging is so much fun.

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Registered: 08-16-2006
Fri, 08-23-2013 - 12:22pm

First wife loved to do it to me, and I will say when done right I cum 10 times harder then with any other type of sex. Yes I do miss it at times Smile

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Registered: 10-11-2011
Thu, 08-22-2013 - 4:06pm
Three common questions Is pegging about female dominance? Pegging is as much about domination and submission as any sex is — it depends on what you both want. There are ways to peg where the woman is in control, where the man is in control and where control is shared equally. For example, when the man is on top, he can control the speed and angle of penetration. Why would a man want to be pegged? Pure physical sensation is a common reason. Pegging is an excellent way to stimulate the prostate gland, which can be hard to reach with fingers alone. Other men are specifically looking to be dominated, and still others just want to try something new and different. Pegging can also be a compelling exercise of trust and intimacy that couples find communicates more than words. If a guy wants to be pegged, doesn’t that mean he’s gay? Being gay means wanting to have an emotional or physical relationship with another man. It has nothing to do with having something up your bottom. Enough of that. Let’s get started. 1. Raise the issue You’re getting off lightly if he raised it first, and you replied coyly, ‘How about tonight?’ If it’s been kicking around in your head for a while and you don’t quite know how to knock on his back door, there are several great ways to drop the hint without pressuring him. Appeal to physical pleasure ‘His P-spot is the male equivalent of the G-spot, and by ignoring it, he’s seriously missing out. When stimulated it can lead to really intense orgasms. To find his P-spot, have him lie on his back and insert a well-lubed finger, palm up, almost all the way in, curve the finger in a ‘come hither’ gesture and massage firmly.’ — Em & Lo Talk equality ‘You know how you mentioned fancying anal sex? You’re up for receiving, too, right?’ Tit-for-tat sex rather defeats the purpose of sex, but there is never any harm in pointing out that there’s a very reasonable equivalent of any other stuff that might be going down. Little white lies ‘I had a dream that I was pegging you — isn’t that crazy? It was kinda hot though.’ I have heard of a woman who produced this line in an instant messaging conversation, to which her boyfriend replied, ‘That would be nice.’ Assuming that he knew what pegging was, or at least had consulted Wikipedia, they discussed this future activity, including her indicating that she’d acquire the necessary kit. It then became evident that he’d assumed pegging was some newfangled word for regular sex. He decided to give it a go all the same, and apparently they both had a nice time. 2. Start simple Man and woman about to engage in pegging, photography by Richard Scholes There’s no need to jump right into the strap-on action. Get some water-based lube and a few pairs of rubber gloves, and try a bit of manual prostate stimulation alongside, for example, oral sex or a handjob. Buying rubber gloves is a science in itself, as most pharmacies only stock ‘one size’, which many women find their hands swim in. If you ask the pharmacist if they stock a smaller size, you invariably get asked just what you want these rubber gloves for. Points for sharing. Several online retailers sell hundred packs in any size if you want to avoid the unnecessary enquiry. Some people like to try butt plugs or anal beads at this point too, which is entirely according to taste. 3. Acquire your kit Man and woman engaging in pegging, photography by Richard ScholesIf you then both want to move on to something more exotic, you’ll need to acquire your strap-on. Strap-ons involve two parts: harness and dildo. Good sex shops should let you try on harnesses, and you should expect to pay £30—£50. Make sure that the harness feels comfortable, sturdy and allows the dildo to point in a direction that’s likely to be useful — cheaper harnesses may point your dildo downward, which makes it harder to control. Some harnesses have a pouch inside to add a vibrating object for extra sensation for you. Dildos, sometimes called dongs, fall into a similar price range. For first-time pegging choose a smooth-surfaced, modestly-sized number. In the words of one man, ‘The anus is the body’s magnifying glass: everything that goes into it appears to be twice its natural size.’ Silicone is popular for dildos because it is easy to clean, hard to damage and it’s very unlikely that someone will be allergic to it. However, silicone dildos tend to be significantly more expensive. Rubber dongs can be acquired for around Once again, make sure you’ve got enough water-based lube. You might also find that condoms and anti-bacterial wipes make clean-up easier. 4. Assume the position Man enjoys being pegged, photograph by Richard ScholesIt can be fun to put your harness on before you get right into the pegging. This makes for a nice promise of something more intense to come as you start with lubing up and the now-familiar anal play. ‘Many couples find that male-on-top is the best position to start with, as having no sensation in the operative part makes controlling placement more difficult for the woman.’ If you do want to go for something where you have complete control, a doggy-style position might be better. Bending him over the side of the bed from kneeling can be good if you’re worried about knocking him over with your enthusiasm. Make sure the dildo and his arsehole are well lubed, and place the head squarely against his pucker, apply gentle pressure or let him press back against the dildo at his own speed. Once the dildo enters into him about an inch or so, pause and let him get used to the feeling. From anal play you will have hopefully got a feeling for what kind of sensations your man likes, and should be able to peg in a way that is consistent with that. For example, some people strongly prefer the pushing in over the pulling out sensation, in which case you can just thrust forward continually, rather than pulling out and then pushing in. A ‘reach around’ may be helpful too: reach around. n. The act of masturbating a sexual partner, usually while simultaneously performing another sexual act from behind, such as doggy-style or anal sex, or spooning. As with any sexual activity, the key is to communicate continually about what is and isn’t working, as well as paying attention to his reactions, movements and the sounds he makes. Talk, talk and talk some more.
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Registered: 08-19-2013
Mon, 08-19-2013 - 9:24pm

Honestly until my most recent relationship I never thought in a million years I would ever engage in this but my fiance loves it. I was nervous about doing it so I researched it and actually started out using a finger. Just get some rubber gloves and lubricant if she is willing to start out this way. It is very pleasurable for the man. She could actually go on Youtube and put in How to do a prostate massage. They have instructional videos on there that are very helpful. She can do this while in the 69 position so she gets pleasure also. Just a suggestion as a starter.

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Registered: 07-28-2013
Sun, 07-28-2013 - 9:06pm

let your wife do it. i have done it to my feance and he loved it. i have never seen him cum and be as satified as he was when i did that to him. tell he to just take it really really so and if it does not happen the first time thats 100% ok. but boy when it does look out OMG!

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Registered: 03-30-2000
Sat, 07-20-2013 - 4:56pm

You may want to volunteer to go with her to help pick out her 'equipment', and find something fairly slender for the initial play.  Apparently a jock-style harness gives her more stability than the thong-type, and leaves her 'accessible'.  They make double-ended dildoes such as the Feeldoe and Nexus, some have space for a bullet vibrator, so she could get stimulated while taking you.  Ditto the earlier remark that you cannot have too much lube. You may want to check out sites like Good Vibrations (goodvibes dot com) for suggestions.

You definitely want to talk things over with her about how she expects the 'scene' to go; getting her excited before the main event will probably be the key. 

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Registered: 05-23-2013
Tue, 07-09-2013 - 5:49pm

Yes-my advice is to take it nice and slow and use lots of lube the first time out-ooops I mean in.  You can get a harness that will hold various toys, some that hold something for her as well.  The first time, I would concentrate on letting her take you.  She may be more interested in dominating you at this point anyway.  Talk to her about what she wants out of it.