1st date

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1st date
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Fri, 06-30-2006 - 4:40pm
I went on a first date with this guy that lasted for an hour. It ended because he said "he had to go". Personally, I think the coffee date was a so-so. Today's the 3rd day after that date and I have not heard from him. What does this mean? Shouldn't he have followed up? Should I be contacting him?
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In reply to: sk3035
Fri, 06-30-2006 - 5:33pm

The technique I mentioned in my previous post to you (about assuming that every contact with a new guy will be your last) might come in handy in this situation, also ;-).

No, I wouldn't contact him. If he doesn't follow up, it means he's not interested, for whatever reason (and it may well have *nothing* to do with you).

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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: sk3035
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 2:31pm
You might definitely still hear from him but I would wait for him to contact you. In the meantime go out and live your life
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In reply to: sk3035
Thu, 07-13-2006 - 4:42pm
I agree with the other posters. I don't believe in calling the guy during the early stages of dating. Some take it as "chasing", get nervous and go AWOL.

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Registered: 07-11-2006
In reply to: sk3035
Sun, 07-16-2006 - 10:17pm
From having dated a lot, an hour is a pretty short date...I wouldnt worry about hearing from him. I'd move on. It was only one date anyway, it's his loss for not wanting to get to know you better before deciding he is not interested.
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Sun, 07-16-2006 - 11:41pm

I've moved on and talking/meeting other men.

I went on a second date with another guy. When I went on the first date (coffee date) with him, it lasted for 1.5 hours and the second date (lunch date) lasted for 2 hours.

This second guy mentioned during the lunch date that I'm a very cautious person meaning that I take every step in dating after very careful thought, which to me was a good thing. He did mention that he and I could go to vegas together for the weekend. When I told him that I was planning on watching Pirates in a theatre, he said that he'd like to watch the movie, but I did not add to that (something of the sort that he and I could go together). When the first date ended, he was very slow in going back to his car and repeatedly said that we will talk soon but when the second date ended (a week after the first date), he said it only once and then rushed towards his car.

I sent him an email after the second date (which was today) saying "It was nice to meet you again. I enjoyed your company and the lunch. Thanks! Have a good rest of the weekend and hope to hear from you soon."

What do you think? Is he interested?

Both of us are divorced. He said that he had a strong relationship with a girl before he got married. He knew he wouldn't marry her but still had the relationship going. When the girl mentioned marriage to him, he would always reply her with "Yeah, we'll get married but never proposed to her." She ultimately married someone else. Is this a red flag?