1st date wonders??!!
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| Sun, 05-09-2004 - 12:21pm |
I went on a date yesterday with someone that I've been talking with through email for the past 2 months. We met on a dating site. He gave me his phone number back then, but I told him I'd feel more comfortable meeting someone face to face first before we use the phone to talk.
The date went really well- we have alot in common, and just chatted over coffee for two and a half hours. There were some awkward moments in conversation though as I guess that's normal when I first meet someone. I was a bit nervous and I sensed that he was a bit nervous too, or maybe even a bit shy in a way. Anyway, I had to go to work so I said I had to get going soon(I actually had a little spare time, but since I was a bit nervous I wanted to end the date on a more comfortable tone). He didn't seem like he was in any rush for me to leave, and we ended up talking more about other things. All in all, I think the date went well, and that we liked each other.
When it was time to leave, I told him that it was really nice to meet him(lightly touching his arm), and that first dates are always awkward. He agreed. He told me to phone him, but didn't ask for my number. Do you think he is interested??

I would say that if he doesn't email within a couple days, send him a short email letting him know that you enjoyed meeting him and would love to get together again. That sends him the message that you ARE interested (if that was the reason for his asking you to call him) but puts the ball back in his court.
Sheri
the best thing again is to put the ball back in his court
Why not go ahead and phone him, as he invited you to do?
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I was at a singles dance once and chatted with a guy for about 10 minutes. Then I got ready to leave. He said to me, "Would you like my phone number?" I said, "No." He then asked me why I wouldn't, and I told him that his mistake was in not asking for my number first. I figure I did the next girl a favor.....
It was arrogant and rude of this man to just hand you his number without even asking for yours. He can always contact you by email if he's interested. But he's not interested.
Its too early to know if he has much interest but he did invite you to call him. I suggest you do call him, and let him know that you are comfortable in receiving a call from him. At this point - he does not know that based on your previous conversations or emails.
Edited 5/10/2004 12:14 pm ET ET by spice.man
Originally, he had given me his number over email because he was on call 24/7 with work(and still is). He thought that it would be a good way to get to know each other until we could meet(we also live about 3 hours away from each other). I wasn't comfortable with that though, as I like to meet someone in person before I talk to them on the phone. So I still had his number from previously.
So that's how the date ended. He told me to call him as I already had his number. LIke I mentioned, the date went well- I didn't get any vibes that he wasn't interested, but he didn't ask for my number etc. nonetheless. So yesterday, I wrote him an email. I basically just said that I enjoyed myself, it was great to finally meet, and that I am interested in him but not sure how he feels, so I will leave the ball in his court. And then I gave him my number. I know there are no right and wrong when it comes to matters of the heart, but do you think I handled this well???