2 dates so far, but....

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Registered: 03-04-2007
2 dates so far, but....
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Thu, 05-10-2007 - 9:18pm

This guy emailed me on myspace and then suggested we talk on the phone. We got along so great and he made me laugh, etc. We spoke for hours every night and sometimes he even called later the same night just to say good night.

I met him in person after talking for almost a month. He still called me, but then the calls slowed down to twice a week and them IM's also. Now it's been 2 weeks since we had our last/second date and he hasn't mentioned plans to see me again. We still talk, though.

If a guy really likes someone, how long does he wait to see her again? Is it ok for the girl to mention hanging out again? So far he's come to see me during the week and never on the weekend. Do you think he is interested? Thanks

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 05-10-2007 - 10:05pm

It is hard to say from your post. He could be slowing down the contact because you are not reciprocating, he is losing interest in general (not due to lack of contact by you) any other reason under the sun.

"So far he's come to see me during the week and never on the weekend." -- that is something you need to uncover because it is possible he has another girlfriend or wife.

"If a guy really likes someone, how long does he wait to see her again?" ---varies per guy

"Is it ok for the girl to mention hanging out again?" --- yes.

"Do you think he is interested?" -- have no clue.

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 3:04pm
well you do want to know if he sees this as just an web/phone relationship or if he might want to get together again - not that you're asking for a commitment but you want to know possible parameters
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Registered: 03-04-2007
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 7:04pm
Thanks. I am reciprocating in some way at least. I did call him first a few times. Another thing is, he lives only 20 minutes away but it's over a bridge with a $7 toll and traffic. He knows I don't have a car (I just moved out of the NYC into the suburbs).
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Registered: 03-04-2007
Fri, 05-11-2007 - 7:14pm

and I forgot - he's 34 and I'm 31

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:08pm
I definitely would want to get to the root of why he only sees you during the week
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