2 Guys - which one to choose -

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Registered: 07-17-2004
2 Guys - which one to choose -
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Tue, 08-03-2004 - 10:57pm
I will try not to go on too long - however it is a long story.

We will start with Guy#1"

I met him three years ago. We were friends and then dated for approximately 6 months (this is what he says - however I don't think it was for very long), then we became friends again. This guy is the most intellectual guy I have met. He is also arrogant but we have mental battles in a good way and it is fun. It is always a challenge. He has a great job, is well versed, well travelled, fun to be with, etc. Problem is, he does not want kids. We have spoken many times and decided it would not be a good idea to date again no matter how much we care/love one another. When I am dating someone he disappears and he is hurt. I try my best to stay in touch but he pushes me away.

Guy #2

We met about 4 months ago. This guy is sweet, caring, and shares a lot of himself and his time, which is great. However he does not have a job nor a car for reason beyond his control. I started to feel like a chauffeur. I also felt the need to separate Guy#1 to Guy#2 because I knew that Guy#1 felt uncomfortable and so did I. I also started to miss my freedom. We have broken up twice and now have not spoken for 4 days. Not sure what to do - because if I could put Guy#1 and Guy#2 together, it would be perfect - except both of them DO NOT WANT KIDS.

Not sure what I am asking for, but who do I choose?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Tue, 08-03-2004 - 11:07pm
If neither of them want kids, but you definitely do, then why choose either? Wouldn't it be better to find someone who is more suited to you AND has the qualities you like in both guys?

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 9:45am
I agree with pure heart--if you want kids--then neither of these guys is probably for you. However if kids are not an issue--then I'd say guy #1 is definetly the better choice because he has his life more together.
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Registered: 05-05-2003
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 12:13pm
Neither, you want kids and they don't. Never settle, you can keep looking for someone who has all the things you're looking for.

But if you do want to continue dating either of these two men in the meantime, I would stick with the guy who has his life together #1. You don't need to be a mother to a guy who can't get his act together.

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