2girls1guyseriousrelationship

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Registered: 10-26-2004
2girls1guyseriousrelationship
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 8:08am
Hi. i have been with my fiance for 2 years now,and we are getting married in 7 months. We are both very fun loving people,he is a singer in a rock band too. We always were wanting to have a 3 some with another girl but didn't know how to ever find one. Well one night, I was talking to my good friend and I mentioned that to her. She said she wouldn't mind doing that! So we took her home. Through out the last 2 months she has been coming over on the weekends, and we have pursued this sexual thing. But also we have determined, that she is our girlfriend too. But she is very young,good head on her shoulders,beautiful,and has a great body. I amm overweight,but they both tell me I am beautiful. My issue is this: I seem to find a reason to be scared or jelous every weekend. My fiance says I am just paranoid. I like her a lot now, and so does my fiance. We even said that id we never break up, she'll be the other wife. But I am scared taht she will start to have stronger feelings for him and be jelous of me etc. What should i do? i wish sometimes we would have kept it just sex.
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Registered: 11-09-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 12:52pm
Well I certainly admire your adventurous spirit. Your concerns are understandable.

But aren't those the terms and conditions you have to accept/run the risk of when adding another figure to the equation? Relationships are so difficult these days as it is... even though this might be an exciting new dimension to your existing happy duo, it's sometimes difficult just getting to know one love,completely and comfortably, never mind two at the same time.