2nd attempt call - she answered!
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2nd attempt call - she answered!
| Wed, 08-18-2004 - 11:36pm |
So i called her a 2nd time just a while ago, and we chatted for about 5 minutes. She was shopping and she beat me to the punch. She mentioned that her and her x are having problems and that she is not ready to date. So thats cool, i understand that. I didnt mention anything about my 1st call to her, but she brought up the fact that her cell is all messed up and she's changing over service. She says she was happy that i called her and that it was nice to hear from me. She said that she will call me in the near future and that she has my number on her cell. I was going to ask her out, but i know the problems about x's and she was with him for a little over a year. She stated he got into drugs, alcohol and is a loser, but why is she still having problems unless he's stalking her. They use to live together and she's having problems with her and not ready to date. She sound thrilled to answer my call. I doubt she'll call me in the future like she said, cuz i aint gonna call her anymore
So i guess i got my answer and im gonna get other girls numbers. Dam my friend was right!!!!! He stated to call her a 2nd time and i did with success

Dont call her anymore and i bet yo azz SHE WILL CALL YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She interested in you that's why she answered your call. She got your message the first time with your name and numbe, so she already knows your number.
Women will ALWAYS screen the mans first call________ALWAYS
As for dj's comment to you about girls not answering the first phone call...OMG, I can't believe it, but I did that last night and I gotta tell you I felt BAAAAAAD doing it!!! The scenario is that I've emailed on and off with this guy for a few months, maybe once or twice a month, but nothing in particular coz I met my bf. Anyway, my bf got told unceremoniously to take a hike on Monday and this guy emailed me again so I said to call. However, when he called, I was just sooo not in the frame of mind to talk, so I let it go to my machine. I composed myself and called him back ten minutes later and we had a good conversation.
I've never done that before. Guess I just needed to call on my own terms, if that makes sense, considering my own recent personal events.
He said he'd call back in three days! LOL
If you like her, be patient. But still keep your options open.
Eve
You told your bf to take a hike a few days ago and your already jumping to talk to another guy so fast? Wouldnt that be considered unhealthy? Kinda like my situation. I want her to get over her x before going out with her, but i will wait for her call and that will tell me. Mean time, im looking elsewhere. I cant stay focused on this one girl.
What happened was when I met my bf, I emailed the guys I was talking to from the dating site and said that I'd met someone, but would they like to remain friends. Some said yes, some said no. I kept in touch just by email with a couple who said they'd be happy to be just friends. Others, I'd already met and we were cool to remain friends also. This guy is just one who I haven't met yet, but who wants to catch up for coffee - hence the 3 day thing. Up till now, I've put that off, because I think he's a bit too keen. However, I reiterated on the phone that it's totally only a friends thing and he agreed to that, so we shall see...
So no, definitely not getting involved with someone else just yet! Yikes! LOL
But I still need to be social. Can't sit at home being miserable forever.
People shouldnt date right after a relationship again, because all the drama will carry on to the next, because there was no healing period. No time to think things out and learn from your mistakes. That leads to more unhealthy relationships and that person never knows what they want and are so confused
Other than that, it usually doesn't take me long to decide whether I feel ok about giving out my number. This guy who rang me yesterday, I've talked to him for about 4 months now, so it's not like he's a complete stranger and I probably should have given him my number a long time ago - then again, he could have given me his too.
And to be honest, I really don't have a problem with giving people my number. It's not listed, so they can't get my address, and if they do become a problem over the phone, well I can get them blocked. I don't really see why people freak out about giving out numbers, but like I said, only one 'stranger' has ever asked me for mine.
Until now, I've never dated. I got into my first LTR when I was 16 and got out of my last one at 30, so this whole dating business new to me.
As for the scenario you described, I'd definitely do coffee with the guy. I'd leave him with no misconceptions about what I wanted at the time and no preconceived ideas about having a relationship if I was not ready, but it certainly wouldn't stop me meeting up with the guy if I didn't want a relationship. No harm in making a new friend.
Make more sense now?