2nd attempt - message vs hangup

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Registered: 07-17-2004
2nd attempt - message vs hangup
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Thu, 08-12-2004 - 3:25am
Well i called her monday and she still hasnt returned my call and its wedensday night. Im thinking about calling her thursday to try again (was gonna wait till monday) and set up for this weekend if she's mature enuff to answer her phone.

Im thinking about hanging up if i get her voicemail again? Good idea?

I dont want to leave a message since i already left one monday. This is her last chance to show me her true colors

She was all into me at the club and did a 360

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 3:35am
Call again, leave a message "hi _____, it's ______ just wondered if you received my last message. I haven't heard from you so I hope all is well. Anyway, if you'd like to catch up for dinner on the weekend, give me a call. Take care, bye..."

Don't hang up - it doesn't give her a chance to respond.

After that, you've done all you can. If she doesn't respond, she's not worth investing any more time (unless she's in traction or something like that). Thanks or no thanks only takes a couple of minutes.

I hope she calls, but it seems you're already questioning her integrity....

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 3:38am
no.......im not going to ask a chic out on the phone. That's lame. I want to ask her voice to voice

But if i hang up, she'll get the hint. She cant even respond to a message i left. Why leave another?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 3:48am
You leave a second one because even though not answering the first is bad form, you have to give people the benefit of the doubt.

I am not home often and don't always get back to people as fast as I could/should, but I'm more inclined to call back those who've left a message than those who have not - I know why they called and I know the call was important enough to them that they wanted to leave a message. If you don't leave me a message, then I'm going to assume it wasn't that big of a deal and I'll get back to you when I can - and that's not always in a hurry.

Getting hang ups just annoys me. It doesn't make me more inclined to return the call.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 3:55am
Well im actually thinking about saying the same thing i said monday if i get her vm, if i decide to leave a message


But for some reason, im gonna hang up :(

Im off to bed.......ill get back thursday

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 3:59am
I hope you get a positive response. :-)

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 4:00am
LOL

Maybe i'll throw her a curve ball

I'll say

Hey its _______, i dont think this is going to work out between us. i think that we should start seeing other people!

LOL.......just kiddin

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 4:13am
LMAO maybe that could be your third phone call.

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 12:37pm
I do feel for you. I called and left a message with a guy over a week ago and have heard nothing back from him. I'm just going to let it go, no point to me to chase after someone that doesn't bother to return my call. But that's just me.

You could call her again and say, "hey, it's ____, I was just calling to see what your plans were for the weekend. I was thinking of going to ____ on _____ night and wanted to see if you wanted to join me?" Or just "hey, it's _____, give me a call". Either way is fine. You don't want to hang up, because if she doesn't have call display she's not going to know that it's you calling.

Hopefully she gives you a call back.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 1:42pm
Ladies - I REALLY appreciate your help =-)

Im not going to ask her out on her vm. All cellphones have caller id. Her phone was on when i first called her. It rang 6 times at 8pm before going to vm, so she got my message with my name and number

Just confused in why women play these childish games. probably wants me to be like every other guy and drool over her. stupid test

Im at the point where i just wont bother to call period

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 08-12-2004 - 3:33pm
Not all cell phones have caller ID. I don't know where you live, but here that is an extra feature you must A) have a digital cell phone to receive and B)subscribe to the service to see.

Also, my cell phone doesn't show the name of the person calling UNLESS I have their name and number programmed into the phone. It will just show the number of the person calling.

I hope that you give her a call and leave a message saying it's you and your number at least.

Good luck!

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