2nd date advice please!!!

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Registered: 06-06-2006
2nd date advice please!!!
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 11:54am

Last week I wrote about giving my number to some random cute guy at a bar. Surprisingly, he DID call (twice) and we arranged a date. We arranged to meet at a nice quiet Italian restaurant and it was the WEIRDEST date ever! It would take forever for me to list all his oddities but my overall impression was that he is a a 21 year "boy", with most likely no REAL relationship experience, who has no freakin clue of the rules of dating (he commited the most HILARIOUS faux pas), who lives with 6 other loutish boys (who obviously are a bad influence!)and whose social life consists of drinking and drinking. HOWEVER - despite his ridiculousness, he has me extremely intrigued. Throughout the date he basically said exactly what he thought (I'm an extremely blunt person too) but was never a moron (although some of his college stories are pretty scandalous). He's definately ODD, but he he made me laugh, made tonnes of flirty eye contact, and in general was really nice and gentlemenly to me. But because of his love for the booze, we ended up drinking after dinner, and instead of me going home with a small peck on the cheek, we had a hot kissing session on my porch (at my initiation - i was drunk + horny by this time) and we agreed that we had both had a good time and that we should go out again (he's supposed to call me this week sometime).

Now the question is - what do we do on this next date? I really don't want it to involve alcohol, because he drinks all the time (apparently all his college dating experiences have involved 26-ers!) and I get drunk way too easily and make bad decisions. I'm essentially the most proper dating experience he's had in a long time, and even though he is no husband material - i kinda wanna draw this out as long as I can and enjoy his oddness. I also don't want to have sex with him (yet). So where should we go? I wanna continue conversation and get to know him better. I need some good suggestions!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 12:05pm
Go bowling, to a fair or to the movies and then to a restaurant. Any event in the city that involves talking or seeing things and not a bar or drinking. At a restaurant, order soda or water to stay away from liquor. Afterward take astrol down the street or downtown and see the historic places in the city (if this applies of course).
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 11-05-2006 - 7:41pm

Why not some activity - bowling, hiking, tc - something that is a shared fun experience and leaves lots of time for talking

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