2yr-ex upsets his life - any chance?

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Registered: 06-13-2003
2yr-ex upsets his life - any chance?
Mon, 04-12-2004 - 8:59am
I recently met a guy that I really like - after a year of many many dates, this one stole my heart right away, but just as things were getting good, I noticed he has a photo of his ex fiancee on his bed side table - I found it odd, and at the same time, he turned cold, saying his ex fiancee has moved back into town. When I approached him about what happened, we talked for about 3 hours. It was really great, because he was totally honest with me - he said it had become too much for him, 'overwhelming' was the term he used. His ex moving back to town was turning his life upside down and to make matters worse, she is now seeing one of his subordinates at work - but despite that she is now with someone else, he has to find out if her moving back has anything to do with wanting to get back with him - and so he can't have a relationship with me right now. He said his headspace timing was just not right.

He said he did feel a connection with me, though, and really likes me and enjoys spending time with me. He said he would like to keep hanging out but would have to tone it way back... he said he can't guarantee things will ever turn into more or how long he'll need to sort things out but if things change he would talk about taking it to the next level with me. I am so disappointed. I really feel amazing wth him and I can honestly say it was the happiest week of my life. Now all i can do is see him as a running partner, roller blading buddy, or whatever. When i was leaving he said we should arrange to do something during the week - should I wait to see if he contacts me or initiate things myself later in the week? Has anyone experienced this - if so, is there any chance it will turn in my favor?

Sheri




Edited 4/12/2004 9:00 am ET ET by londoness75