5 year relationship- what to do???
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5 year relationship- what to do???
| Wed, 11-03-2004 - 2:53pm |
My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and lived together for 4 of those 5. I'm realizing that he doesn't want to get married, have children, travel or any of the other things I would like to do in my life. I want out. My problem is that for two years, he financially supported me (exact reason is irrelevant). I feel guilty leaving because I appreciate what he did for me so much. I know he cares because he wouldn't have done that for two years if he didn't. The problem is, I don't think he cares enough. How do I tell him "I want out of the relationship, I want to move out." "I don't nor could I ever hate you." I need to go on with my life, with someone who wants the same things I do. This is a case of "sometimes love isn't enough."
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| Wed, 11-03-2004 - 4:34pm |
Well it won't be easy but you simply must end this as soon as possible. You are doing him no favors by sticking around, feeling as you do (keep reminding yourself of that but when you break up don't say it. I'm doing this for you, you deserve better etc. never seem to go over too well with the other person, nor do they understand it. It sounds like a line to make it easy on yourself, even if it's a true statement. MO anyway). The longer you wait the harder it will be. Simply say what you said -- you appreciate everything he's done, you value the experience with him etc. but you have realized this isn't right for you b/c you do not have the same life goals -- and that's CRUCIAL in a successful relationship -- and even though he won't probably take it well, that isn't your responsibility.
