Is 5 years too much?????
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Is 5 years too much?????
| Tue, 10-11-2005 - 12:18pm |
Hi All
This is probably an age old... no pun intended question... but when is the age gap too much?
I've been hanging out with a group of people for a while and a friend recently moved in with a couple of friends nearby me so we've been hanging out a lot more then usual. The word going around right now is that he's interested in me. He's smart, social, easy going and he's attractive. Only thing is that he's 5 years younger then me. If it was vice versa then i don't think that there would even be any question.
Well ... i guess there isn't really too much to question here. I like him so i'm probably going to go for something with him ... go with the flow... but i'd still like to hear feedback.
Thanks!

In my opinion, there are about a million things that factor into a happy relationship before age. I would definitely get to know him, that's really the only way to figure out if it's an issue.
Thanks so much for sharing that ... I think that it will be helpful to a lot of us on here actually.
Its really nice to know that there is some hope. I'm trying to take things one step at a time ... but i'm going with word of mouth so who knows... he might not even be interested - yet i find myself becoming more and more interested in him!
I guess you could almost say the chase is on...
A woman in her mid to later twenties might be at the point in her life where she is looking for a partner to eventually marry. Chance are good that a guy in his very early twenties is NOT looking for that life partner (yet). However once the guy reached his late twenties -- then I would think the gap is smaller. anyway -- just food for thought.
I think it depends on how old you guys are? If one person is 25 and the other is 20, that can be TOO much. Definitely! A 20-y/o is barely an adult and a 25-y/o is generally still getting used to the adult responsibilities of life and answering those "what do I want for myself, who am I?" questions. At 20, those questions haven't really entered the realm yet. At 28 vs. 23, for example, it can still be a limitation but could work if both people are of equal maturity and goals. The limitation is, more or less, in terms of life experiences.
Beyond 28 - 30, I'd say it's not that big of a deal at all -- however, the maturity and goals still have to be compatible but the age factor isn't as much of an equation b/c there's "progress" and "life experiences" under each person's belt.
JMHO.