6 months...$300 x-mas gift... yes or no?

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Registered: 11-05-2004
6 months...$300 x-mas gift... yes or no?
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Wed, 11-07-2007 - 3:00am

hi everyone, this message is time sensitive as i have about 18 hours before making my decision. my b/f and i have been together for going on 6 months in Dec and i know he really wants this liquor dispenser that dispenses jagermeister. they don't sell it here in canada and if they do, it costs about $400. i was planning on purchasing it on ebay for about $230 US ($212 CDN) and with shipping cost of $60 US ($55 CDN)so about $300. this is a christmas present for him.


it is kinda pricey and i'm not exactly making as much money as i would like to be however, i always think that one day when i am making the kind of money i would like to, spending $300 wouldn't have seemed so bad. my issue is: will i regret the purcase if we break up a few months later?


the reason i really would like to buy it for him is because i know it would make him so happy. people generally don't do really nice suff like this for him. i can see his face on christmas morning, in shock and joy, hell, maybe shedding

Just do it and done!!

 

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Registered: 11-07-2007
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 6:16am
I can for sure understand why you are so conflicted, I am in a similar situation as you with being just out of university and having just started working. Both my guy and I have full time jobs, mine being more newly acquired than his, but money is still kind of tight. One thing we have decided to do this year for Christmas is to set a limit, that way you both know one gift will not like 'show-up' the other persons, and it lets you be creative and find something reasonable you know your significant other will love.
I can understand that he really wants this jagger dispenser thing, guys and their gadgets! haha, but on the other hand, it seems to be a little pricey, and if he is working full time- he can likely afford it himself, you could like mention to him you saw it on ebay?!
If you start saving now and can afford it come Christmas, then go for it, surprises are the best!!
If not, you guys should set a limit together.
Another thing that can be good is, and yes this is ridiculousyly cheesy, but complementing an inexpensive gift with something home-made, like a card, or collage or something. 'From the heart' things never go unappreciated and can make even the toughest guy shed a tear!
hope this helps a bit!
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Registered: 10-14-1999
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 8:42am

ok - you know him 6 months. This is often the make or break point for people. consider how you would feel if you did spend $300 on this guy and you break up in the next month or so? I'm not suggesting thisis the case - but it is a possibility.


So he wants a high dollar booze dispenser. That doesn't mean you go into debt to get it for him. ONE day is not here - now is here - you don't have the money to afford it now and you don't have a job. Hon, we each have to determine what our priorities in life are - far too many people borrow against their future the same way you are asking about - you'll go into debt on a git for a guy who may not even be in the picture come spring.


Be realistic - its ok to 'want' to buy him an extravagent gift - but your pocket book says otherwise. It is the thought that counts - so keep your gift giving in line with your current financial circumstances rather than borrowingagainst your future. If you borrow too much, you have no future left.

Toni

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 4:28pm

If you were in the financial position to do this and not have it affect you significantly, I'd say go for it.

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Registered: 11-05-2004
Wed, 11-07-2007 - 4:34pm
everyone has given me such great advice. i was 100% 50/50 on this and your suggestions have made me

Just do it and done!!

 

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 11-11-2007 - 11:32am

I realize this is after the fact and I do wonder what you did. Such an extravagant gift is certainly not necessary unless it's something you can easily afford. But if you made the purchase don't regret it.

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