able to go the distance???
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| Tue, 08-02-2005 - 2:47pm |
Please bear with me...
I have been in a relationship of sorts (we're dating, but we don't use the terms boyfriend and girlfriend) for about 6 months now. The guy is 32 and I am 22. He is a professional and I am a student finishing up my last year of college. I met him when i took an internship in NYC and moved there from Maine. That was back in January. We met in February and started to date. Things got a little more serious but we both knew that I was going to have to go back to School in the fall, so we stuck to only "dating". I would see him and have seen him approx. 1 time (sometimes 2 times) a week. Over these past months my feelings have grown, and i've become pretty smitten with him. He has too i believe. He isn't one to put his heart on his sleeve, he's pretty business-like all the time, yet, when we go out and have a few cocktails, he tends to open up and tell me how much he likes me and stuff. He also hasn't really been able in the past to hold onto a girlfriend b/c he's always so busy and doesn't have enough time. And he expressed that to me early on. I can handle a busy guy and as long as he makes time for me when he can, i'm happy. and so he has and he does make time, and i think that's why we've stayed together for as long as we have. (He has even acknowledged the fact that we've been together for so long.) Neither of us have had good relationships... My longest relationship has only ever been 6 months, before this one, and his longest relationship w/in the past couple of years has only withstood 3 months or so. Anyhow, things have been great, but i think he doesn't tell me what he thinks about me b/c he knows things arent' going to last w/ me going back to school. He also says that he knows i'll want to enjoy my last year of college, and that I won't want an "old guy" down in NYC. I have told him that I beg to differ, and that It doesn't matter if he's older than me b/c i like him, and I can still have a good time at college. I do well with the long distance relationships... and I don't think that he would have that hard of a time with a long distance thing b/c we only see each other once a week now anyways. So I don't know if he really likes me, or if everything was just a fling for him, and I don't know if I should just tell him that I really really like him and that I wish he could just try a long distance thing... He tells me that when i graduate he'll help me find a job down where he lives... I have a week or so left with him in NYC and then he goes on Vacation with a Buddy and then before he comes back, I leave to go home to Maine. And then I don't know when i'll get to see him next. I'm very torn inside b/c this guy is amazing and everything i could have asked for... I guess what i'm asking is: 1. what is going on in his mind? 2. Does he really like me or was this just a fling? 3. Why is he kinda set against doing a long distance thing? 4. Would I be smart to just come out and ask him to try a long distance relationship? 5. Does he really see us perhaps getting more serious if I were to come back in a year and get a job and be in the city all the time?
I really just need perspective into this whole situation...
| Tue, 08-02-2005 - 3:10pm |
