adice about rumours

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Registered: 06-03-2006
adice about rumours
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 9:01am
after breaking up with my ex boyfriend, he started a rumour that i slept with a close male friend of mine. all of my close friends have believed this and are now becoming very close to my ex and the male friend who is not denying the rumour. i have found myself a really great new boyfriend and i dont want him to believe this false accusation but im not sure that he would beleive me because all of my friends are urging on the gossip. i no longer want to hang around with my friends because they are always with or talking about my ex or the male friend. i feel that i am no longer accepted by them and can no longer trust them. i have tried asking to go out with just one or two friends but they never reply to txts or calls. i am now finding myself with no social life apart from that with my new boyfriend. i dont want to appear too clingy to my boyfriend as we have only been going out for a month but he is the only person who i can go out with so i am finding myself constantly trying to meet and talk to him. i dont know whether to talk to my boyfriend about this because i dont know if he would want to stay with me if he also thought the rumour true. i dont know what to do about my friends or if i should tell my new boyfriend the senario (i really dont want to tell him just incase) i am now on summer holiday and dont want to spend the next couple of months on my own in my house. please can someone help me
nicola
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-04-2006 - 8:04am

nikki_222...

PG thinks that now might be a perfect time to acquire a new set of friends.

If others can "talk behind your back or straight at your face"---and later distort what you've shared to others....do you REALLY CONSIDER ANYBODY WHO PULLS THIS CRAP AS "YOUR FRIEND?" Why waste your time relating your present social actitivies to people who will only report the news back to EX...or distort the stories in some way?

As you get to know your NEW B/F a little better, you'll eventually make new friendships from the people he hangs out with! But in the meantime...you have to build up a little more self-confidence for those "alone times" when you're completely BY YOURSELF!

In a relationship that's just beginning (the 2 of you have only been dating for a month), it's not necessary to share your entire past! Why not see how the 2 of you feeling about each other after the first 6 months? Then you can decide how much of your "earlier social life" you wish to share?

Pianoguy