advice on after date follow up please

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Registered: 03-05-2006
advice on after date follow up please
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Wed, 07-26-2006 - 9:15pm

Hello everyone. I've been out of the dating life for a while and it seems so much has changed. I need a little advice. I'm so new to this that I'm not even really sure if I just had a "date" or it was just two friends meeting for drinks!

I met a guy online, not a dating site, but a message board site where we've both posted for a long time. We started emailing each other directly about two months ago and he suggested we meet for drinks.

We finally met up last night at his suggestion and I had a really good time. I THINK he did too, but I've had guys say "this was fun, lets do this again" and I never heard from them again so I'm not getting my hopes up or anything. But I just wanted to know if I should be the one to email him and tell him I had a nice time and thank him for the drinks (I offered to pay but he declined) or just wait to see if I hear from again? My instinct is to wait for him to make the next move, but just in case I'm wrong, I don't want to blow it.

Thanks!

PS - The reason I "think" he had a good time (he's kind of laid back so its hard to tell) is that he emailed me beforehand and said he wanted me to know that it couldn't be a late night and he needed to go by about 10:00 because he had to be at work very early but he didn't make any move to leave until 10:40. So I at least know he wasn't counting the minutes until he could flee! :-)

Also, I'm posting this on one of the other "understanding men" type boards so sorry if you've already read this.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 10:22pm
I'd send him a quick upbeat email thanking him for the great conversation and drinks. I wouldn't pressure him to meet you again, and see how he responds.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 6:23pm

Hi


You could send a casual little email thanking him for the drinks and saying you had a nice time. But let him be the one to do the asking out

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Registered: 07-01-2005
Tue, 08-01-2006 - 9:37am
Oops - I just posted a similar question yesterday. I've been sending a quick "had a great time" follow up after dates, and had been concerned that I was screwing thing sup, but now I have a few guy's opinions, and mostly they say that they would appreciate that sort of thing. I was worried that by "breaking the rules" that I was scaring them off. But the point was made that, if a guy is into you, an email isn't going to scare them off, and if it does, then you might not want to be with them anyway.