ADVICE DESPERATELY NEEDED ASAP
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ADVICE DESPERATELY NEEDED ASAP
| Wed, 11-10-2004 - 11:08am |
Here's making my incredibly long story short.... I met this guy & he was fabulous... wined me, dined me, flowers, cakes, everything I'd ever looked for in a man. Then he started to change, for the worse... He started going out & ignoring my phone calls or calling & cussing me out for no apparent reason... well we have only been together 2 months & have broken up at least twice a week... He'll get angry, leave me, go out to a bar, get drunk, call me & cuss me out... then he'll call the next day & apologize & I'll accept it & we'll be fine again for another few days... Apparently I have finally woken up & realized that in the beginning he was treating me well so he could get me wrapped around his finger & then get to where he could treat me like dirt & walk all over me. I have lost most of my friends because of him & have finally decided I am done with him... I should never have let anybody walk all over me, curse me for everything I am worth & then let him think he could get away with it.... So I am to the point where I want to let him go, thing is I just found out I am pregnant... I don't want this kid & I definately don't want to have it with him... I realized I never would be happy if we ended up together with children... I just need his help right now.... He knows about this because I have told him & he has changed his act alot... but it is too little too late... I just need advice as how to approach this with him.... I am afraid that if I break up with him he will not give me the financial support I need. Should I wait until this issue has passed by or should I address the situation now & see just see what happens?????

This will not get better. Nothing in your power will change him. No matter how much you love him or try to show him, he will not change. This is not even about you. It is all about him.
Put your interests, and energy into someone who really adores you. Someone who would never want to lash out or be mean.
I wish you luck!
Jodie
http://tickers.ticke
Break things off with this guy. That's all I can say.
First of all, baby or not, this man is NOT treating you well and you should NOT be with him. Adios and out the door. You deserve more and shouldn't settle for less than the best. Tell him that there will be no "us" for the two of you, whether he has "changed his ways" or not.
Second of all, you need to decide what is best for you in regards of this baby. You have 3 options, explore them all fully before making a decision. In Canada, an abortion doesn't cost money, but I'm gathering that in the US it does- something to look into if you're not ready to go through pregnancy yet. As far as adoption, you still have medical bills that would need to be covered, something that some adoptive parents are willing to cover for the sake of their new child getting the best possible start in life. And doing it on your own, there is so much support out there for single parents, and law states that he would HAVE to pay child support to you if you keep it- if he wants the child or not.
((((HUGS))))
I wish you the best,
Alison