Advice from the guys (or girls)!

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Registered: 08-05-2004
Advice from the guys (or girls)!
Sat, 08-07-2004 - 8:34pm
Hi all. I posted this message earlier this morning but I haven't found it and have no idea where it is, so I apologize if it's been posted before. :\ I have this guy friend I've had since middle school and when I graduated (I was a grade older than him) I started having these feelings for him. It took me a little while to admit to myself but as time went on (it's been about three/four years now) I knew I was falling in love with him. We grew up in the same neighborhood and stuff but now he lives in Alabama for school and I live here since my school is down the road. Back in 2003 we talked off and on online since we're both so busy and don't have each other's numbers or anything like that. I've often thought about telling him how I feel but I am worried about ruining our friendship that we have. For a while in late 2003 (around Halloween) he was starting to open up to me more and for a while he was talking about this girl he really liked. On Halloween we both went to a party and I think he went with the girl and I went to a party a friend threw with my brother. That next night we talked a little bit and talked about the parties and stuff. I told him about this guy I was sorta attracted to and was liking (even though he was the only one I cared about) was there and the guy friend said I should have hooked up with him and I told him it was late when the party was over (which was true) and that at the time I was hanging out with the gang a bit more (which was also true) and he went "oh" and since then he hadn't really talked much to me. After that earlier this year he started disappearing off and online and we haven't really talked too much. Last time we talked was in late April after exams were over. I asked him if he maybe wanted to do something this summer and he said he was really busy when he came back here and couldn't. I don't know if that's true or if he really didn't want to do anything or what. I still have my feelings and they're still strong which is really unusual for me since I usually like a guy a few months and then like another one. I've been thinking about telling him how I feel in an E-mail or something since that's the only contact I have to him right now. Saying how I feel to someone is hard since I've only done it once before and that didn't work out too well and only ended up in hurt. I am an aspiring singer/songwriter and my songs just pop out of nowhere and one night this great song popped into my head dealing with him. I am now working with a friend who's also a musician on the song and I was thinking about having him listen to it and get his opinion on the song, and if he likes it then I'm going to confess my feelings to him in an E-mail letter since I'm still very shy about all that. :\ I guess I'm just looking for advice from guys out there (or girls) who can tell me if I should confess my feelings or not even though we don't see or talk to each other too much. We usually just talk during school since he's just busy then with studying and not with a bunch of other stuff. I'd appreciate any advice. :) If you want you can also E-mail me at nightcrowwitch@yahoo.com :) Thanks for reading this long post! XOXO.