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advice how to ask to start dating?
| Fri, 10-29-2004 - 11:15pm |
Hello all,
I need advice sooo bad. I have had my eye on this guy who's been posting on the same message baord as I for almost a year. ALthough we never talked to each other, I feel as though his values are strong like mine and that really makes me think he's interesting.
Sooo, I asked a friend of his for his email and she said she'd pass the message.
Next thing you know he WRITES to me and says, "what can I do for you?" That's it. I feel so weird though. I almost sort of feel like he is trying to brush me off, but just being polite about it. Or does he just truly have no idea I like him?
This is really hard becuase now it is up to me to make the next move. My question for you all is how should I ask him if he's interested in me?
He does live ten hour drive away from me. And I want to DATE him. If he is the right guy, I don't care about distance. And so, far I am head over heels for him, and very much feel as though he has great values that match mine from all I've seen.
The only thing I don't know is if he is interested in me romantically. So, now is my chance to ask him.
Here's where I need your advice. How do I do this withou turning or scaring him off???Should I just say, hi, I think you are interesting and would like to know if you would like to get to be friends offline and date each other?
Or would that be too much??
Also, he did post and say he was single and available. He got divorced the other year. And said he's single now. I just have no idea if he is interested in me personally or not.
Anyway, if a guy writes you and says 'how can I help you?', what does that mean?
Does he not know that I like him and he is just trying to 'feel me out', 'test the waters' or something? Or is this just him being polite like he is to everyone else as his standard to everyone is?
Someone? Please, I really appreciate ANY advice and/or opinions. Thank you!
I need advice sooo bad. I have had my eye on this guy who's been posting on the same message baord as I for almost a year. ALthough we never talked to each other, I feel as though his values are strong like mine and that really makes me think he's interesting.
Sooo, I asked a friend of his for his email and she said she'd pass the message.
Next thing you know he WRITES to me and says, "what can I do for you?" That's it. I feel so weird though. I almost sort of feel like he is trying to brush me off, but just being polite about it. Or does he just truly have no idea I like him?
This is really hard becuase now it is up to me to make the next move. My question for you all is how should I ask him if he's interested in me?
He does live ten hour drive away from me. And I want to DATE him. If he is the right guy, I don't care about distance. And so, far I am head over heels for him, and very much feel as though he has great values that match mine from all I've seen.
The only thing I don't know is if he is interested in me romantically. So, now is my chance to ask him.
Here's where I need your advice. How do I do this withou turning or scaring him off???Should I just say, hi, I think you are interesting and would like to know if you would like to get to be friends offline and date each other?
Or would that be too much??
Also, he did post and say he was single and available. He got divorced the other year. And said he's single now. I just have no idea if he is interested in me personally or not.
Anyway, if a guy writes you and says 'how can I help you?', what does that mean?
Does he not know that I like him and he is just trying to 'feel me out', 'test the waters' or something? Or is this just him being polite like he is to everyone else as his standard to everyone is?
Someone? Please, I really appreciate ANY advice and/or opinions. Thank you!

I would not at this point ask if he is interested in you, but would just strike up a friendly conversation. Comment about something you know he's interested in, his lifestyle, hobbies, etc, and go from there. Keep it friendly, but not pushy. If he responds, then you have your foot in the door.
Hope it goes well!