Advice Needed - How to date a Pilot?

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Advice Needed - How to date a Pilot?
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Mon, 03-08-2004 - 9:41am
Hi there,

It's been a while since I've been on here - but I could really use some advice. Here's my story in a nutshell:

Mid January: I was going to Toronto to visit a friend, and my flight was delayed. I really hit it off with the guy sitting next to me in the airport. He was a pilot for the airline, but not working that flight - just returning from holiday, and it was completely ironic too, because he lived on the exact same street that my friend lives on in Toronto. He ended up giving me a ride to her house after our flight landed!! He went to get the car in the employee parking lot, and I got us 2 hot chocolates.. the drive was about 45 mins, and it was really nice. I would say that it was the highlight of my entire weekend trip. He gave me his e-mail address and said to write.

I mailed him when I got home. He mailed straight back saying it was great to have met me and that he would get up to Ottawa sometime in February to see me.I wrote him back a few days later - and then about a week later he called me on the phone. We emailed a few times, and he called me a couple of times over the next few weeks and then called to say he was coming to Ottawa. it would have been 6 weeks from the time we met - but I was totally excited...

We spent Friday afternoon and night together but he had to leave 7am on the Saturday because it was the only flight he could get back in time to report for his next working flight. He was a bit hard to read though in terms of whether or not he was intereseted in me but we made out a bit and spent the night together but no sex (I had told him I wasn't ready for that). he said he was in no hurry so seemed ok with it. When he left the next morning he kissed me twice and said, "Well, I had a great time, we should do it again sometime."

The thing was... he knew he had to return to Ottawa in 3 days' time to get his license renewed. I would love to see him again just to have dinner or something - but I didn't mention it.

The next day - Sunday - I called him (maybe I should have waited longer) I left a voice mail just saying I called to say hello and I would maybe try again later. I ended up staying out all night , so around 9pm when I knew I would not be able to call him again, I sent him a text message on his phone offering that he was welcome to stay with me on monday night if he wanted to. I figured it would be easier than having to fly in and out on Tuesday. I said in the note, "i know we just saw each other, so no pressure... but... "

No response to either the voice mail or the text message... and then my mind started racing that he was not interested. By Monday evening I hadn't heard anything and I guess I was just really disappointed. Maybe I overreacted, but I called again and left a pretty honest voice mail saying that I know he probably thought I was trying to reach him, but that I just really wanted to know what he thought of the weekend - would he like to try to get together again sometime, or was I just pestering him?? I tried to make it light-hearted but it was obvious that I wanted to know what was going on.

Tuesday he called and left a voice mail at my home number - it was totally upbeat, he said,

"Hey, sorry, I just got your message, I was flying all day yesterday -yeah, I had a great ttime this weekend! Thanks Again! I'm off to Calgary tomorrow for three days or so, but I'll call you when I get back.. and then he mumbled 'at some point' at the end of the sentence. (barely audible). That was last Tuesday - now it is the following Monday. I have not contacted him at all, but I have seen him log onto MSN over the weekend.. so I know he's been home from the Calgary trip.

I know he is a pilot, and they are not necessarily the most committing of guys - but I would really like to see him one more time when it isn't as awkward as our 'first date'. Do you think there is a chance he is still interested, or am I just waiting for a call that will never come?? OR - since he left me the voice mail, is he waiting for me to contact him again??

HELP!!!



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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Mon, 03-08-2004 - 3:00pm
Well, I'm sorry, hon. But you know what? BUMP HIM!! It's his loss, and you will do MUCH better with the next lucky guy ;) Because next time, you will stay cool, have a good time, and let the man "woo" you. The guy that REALLY is into you will let you know it.

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