Advice please?!

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Advice please?!
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 1:23pm
Hello,

Just wanted to run something by you guys to see if you had any advice.

I went out with a guy for about a month and a half and we broke up shortly after in amicable terms. We ceased to contact each other for about a month. I had been applying to grad school and was just accepted to school in DC. I live in NY. I made my decision to go and now that I know I will be out of the city for a while, I felt the need to contact him again to see how he was doing and whatnot. He is not a bad guy at all and I don't want to lose touch. I am not saying that I may still not have feelings for him but I won't know till I see him in any case.

Anyways, I did send him an e-mail, just touching base and asking him if he ever wanted to, we could hang out once before I leave for school. I was also very clear that these meeting would be on platonic terms, just so he he doesn't think that I have hidden intentions. (Perhaps deep inside I do wish for something to happen but that is really NOT the purpose of the meeting.)He replied almost immediately saying that he was happy to hear from me and to schedule a meeting for next week. He also congratulated me on my acceptance to grad school. I told him what days I would be available for next week and and to let me know which day suited him best.

It has been a little bit over a week now and he still has not replied to that second e-mail. I have been relunctant to e-mail him again because I don't want to seem pushy. It just seems really strange that he was willing to meet and then he just decides to not follow up on it. I have thought about the possibility of him meeting someone and taking an interest in that person so much so that he doesn't want to jeapordize that but I was very clear in the -email that we would meet only as friends and that we would hang out just once before I leave. And then I thought about the possibility of him not interested in meeting up with me but then why did he reply to the first e-mail and why give a specific time frame?

I know I shouldn't care and should just let it go but the thing is that I would like to see him once more. Although I may be still interested in him is besides the point because I am leaving pretty soon and I know it wouldn't work anyways. Someone suggested to me to send him another light e-mail (just once) and asking what's up. I don't know if I should. What do you guys think?
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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: ktorres14
Sun, 07-04-2004 - 1:01pm
Hello ktorres!